Okay so basically my partner and I have a toddler (3) and a newborn (11 weeks). I have been experiencing postpartum depression which I’ve let him know but I just haven’t felt he’s done much to support me. Anyway, yesterday I was very overwhelmed (which was building up for a few days. Initially I thought it was sexual frustration cos we really haven’t been doing it like we usually do but after a few attempts I just didn’t care to keep trying anymore so I left it. I moved from sleeping in the bedroom and went to the lounge and after a bit of thinking I asked him to talk and told him I needed space.

My mum is going out of the country in a few weeks and I have a key to our home so I was gonna go there for a bit to get myself together. So I expressed all this to him.

He told me that space means breaking up and the conversation was cut short because the baby woke up and he had to attend to him.

Now he’s asked me for a chat and we’re watching a movie so we’ll talk after the movie. But he’s just said to me “you look beautiful and you’re glowing” I said “thank you” and he said “is there another guy? Because you seemed to want to get rid of me quickly last night so maybe someone is making you happy now and you want to dump me?” I had no response to that so I just smiled and said no.

The movie is almost done and I have no idea how to explain why I wanted space cos I genuinely don’t even know myself???? I just felt like maybe time apart would make things a bit more clearer.

Also side note: he was texting other women sexually late last year and earlier this year. I addressed it and he’s done his best to be transparent and reassure me etc so I’m reasonably confident he’s not doing that anymore but I think that’s where the whole breaking up with him thing is coming from. Idk. I also think I forgave him before I fully digested his behaviour and now I’m finding it hard to bring up the fact that it bothers me from time to time that he did that and I have a bit of resentment sometimes. Should I bring this up? Or will that make me a hypocrite bc I always say once someone apologises you shouldn’t bring it up again 😅

Please help!!!!!