Hey y’all, so I have been dating my boyfriend a little over a year. I’m 28 and saving money currently living at home with my parents, I always go to my boyfriend’s apartment multiple times out of the week.

Whenever I talk to my bf about getting my own place it always turns into an uncomfortable discussion.

My boyfriend says it makes no sense in me wanting my own place because I’m always at his place and it would make sense to just get a place together.

I never had my own place before or lived on my own. I’m not quite ready yet to live with someone else, I still want my alone time, and want to be by myself at times, yes I love him and love being around him

But I would want my first place to be just me, I am younger than him, he is 33 and I am 28. I guess he is in the mind state of he’s older and want to settle down.

Me and my boyfriend also has had a rocky relationship. Things just started getting better because he decided he was going to change. He has insecurity issues and doesn’t handle his money properly. He pays his bills and rent but anything after that he likes to blow his money. He says that if I move out and get my own place it’s selfish because It means i was basically using him, seeing that I go over his place quite often.

Him being irresponsible with his money and having insecurities is a reason why I don’t want to move out with him. His credit score is shit and he hasn’t even began to fix his credit. He doesn’t have a car either. Sometimes it seems like he doesn’t take life seriously.

I love him dearly but am I being unreasonable and selfish for wanting a place of my own? I feel like moving out together is a big deal and that should be preserved for marriage. I also feel like he needs to work on himself more.

What y’all think am I being weird about this?