Jumping right in!

FH was previously married, this will be his 2nd but my first. His first marriage was a nightmare, the only blessing is an incredibly sweet and adorable little boy who will be less than a month shy of 6 by the wedding and will be the only bonus kid (BK) I have. I’ve been in his life since he was 2. I love this little munchkin as if he was my own.

His mom is a whole pot of drama soup and then some. My in-laws to be do not care for her and have made their opinion very known. Especially his dad who is very mellow and never has any issue with anyone, has said for us to have FH ex-wife stay as FAR AWAY from the wedding as possible! Our venue is almost 2 hours away (love the venue and it be if it’s our many out of state guests). Her just showing up randomly is not a high concern.

I want little munchkin (BK) to be part of everything. I’m not just marrying his dad he’s a part of the package too. FH mom specifically states that she does not want to help in any aspect of the wedding other than the rehearsal dinner. Which I get that but they have refused to assist in helping us watch over BK in any aspect especially with us not doing things the “southern way”.

Do we stress about having him there or do we do a private ceremony and have the big wedding without him while getting judgement from friends and family? Majority have met his ex and I feel like they would get it.

I want him there but FH has lots of concerns.