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I have something super embarrassing to admit.. My due date with my daughter was June 26th, 2017. I was raped September 7th 2016. I also had an active sex life with my now husband. Is there a way for me to do a partnity test between my daughter & husband without them knowing (such as hair?). I know that at this point, it doesn't change anything - he will always be her dad. I'm losing my mind since I've thought about this and for obvious reasons I don't want him to know as it's extremely upsetting. Is there a kit that you recommend??

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Wait, your husband doesn’t know? I get what happened to you is terrible, but not telling him the child could potentially not be his is also terrible.

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I’m sorry you got raped. That’s really awful and I’m not taking away from your trauma. However. Your husband deserves to know that there’s a chance this child he’s been raising for SEVEN YEARS as his own might not be his. In YOUR mind it “doesn’t matter” but it shouldn’t be up to you to decide that for him

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Wait, what? Are you saying you’ve never told your husband that you were raped and the baby might not be his?? Surely I am missing something?

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There's a lot of trauma to unfold here. However, the fact you were raped doesn't set everything else aside. 
What is your plan here? If she's his, go on like nothing happened? If she isn't, then you tell him you were raped to explain things?
It seems like you have some unprocessed guilt (understandable) but at the end of the day, what happened to you is a fact. It's not going to go away. It happened. He has raised that child as his and married you. Did you stay quiet for a reason? 
I would say he deserves to know.

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Update: so after discussing the possibility with my husband once again, he agreed to a paternity test. For accuracy, we tested both children: our 2 year old son and 7 year old daughter. I just got the test results in... he is the father of our son, but not our daughter. Although we've previously said that this would not change how he looks at her... do I continue trying to find her father so that she knows for genetic reasons in 20 years? Or do we just keep this between us....I'm afraid her father could be the one that assaulted me.

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If your due date was June 26th, conception would’ve been the first week of October. 
If you were estimated 11 weeks on November 14th, that would make conception September 12th-ish.

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If August 29th was your conception date then that’s not even possible for your attacker to be the father.

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So you do need to tell him because if it turns out not to be his he can actually sue you for paternity fraud. Just better to be open honest Get into therapy.

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To clarify: my husband DOES know about the event and the possibility of her not being his. He's just always said "she looks just like me" and didn't want to entertain it.. I hate to bring it back up 7 years later but it's BUGGING me... I've always wanted one done and the older she  gets, the more doubts that I have - along with guilt and shame.

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So your husband doesn't know you were raped?!!? Are you passing off what could be a random man's child as his?!!?? That's horrible!! Yes there's a way to get their hair without them knowing but either way you NEED to tell your husband; especially if the child isn't his!

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