Dating is so hard

Men obviously hate a independent woman because she can’t be controlled so easily but also say they don’t want a dependent woman because she’s a goldigger . Well from personal experience men wanted to just have sex and leave me when I was in need and dependent. But while I was striving and independent they would try to still use me and leave because they didn’t feel needed . I’m so disgusted , hurt , and tired . Do men even want us ? They don’t want to help us financially at all and make weird excuses for it 😫 I can’t find a provider and protector to save my life . Why ?