My partner works a full time job, Monday to Friday 9-5. He works from home which has always been a great help as he had to go back to work when our daughter was 2 weeks old.

I look after her full time whilst he works, I change her, feed her, take her on outings, visits to family etc. I won’t lie, it’s hard. Some days I struggle as she cries alot and hates being left on her own in a room for no more than 1-2 minutes till I go to the bathroom. Therefore I struggle to get things done around the house, some days I even have to bring her swing to the bathroom so I can toilet without her getting herself into a state over me walking out the room. There is sometimes I go into my partners work room and ask if he will watch her for 2 minutes till I quickly make her a bottle and he will get proper pissed at me for disturbing him, therefore I don’t do it often.

When he’s on his breaks and lunch this is my time to quickly go for a shower or make myself food.

She’s 7 months old and I’ve never been away from her for anymore than 4-5 hours. My partner has been on several nights out with the boys and sometimes out till 5-6am and doesn’t tell me where he is and switches his phone off. I never have any time on my own and I think that’s why I feel so overwhelmed sometimes.

Last night our daughter woke at 1am and my partner went to make her a bottle whilst I changed her. She hasn’t been drinking great recently and is normally on 6oz, but I asked him to make her a 4oz and if she wanted more I would make it, rather than wasting formula. He comes back into the room with a 7oz bottle, I ask if he made more and he said “no it was too hot, therefore I added some cold tap water to cool it down. I said you what?😬🫣 safe to say it’s me that makes the bottles in the house. I said you can’t add more water especially not tap water, you need to even it out with the scoops. He then proceeded to take the temp of our daughters bottle with a thermometer I use for meats, but this was my fault because I left it on the counter top apparently🤦🏻‍♀️ he then threw the bottle in the sink and said you make it then and stop being so bossy. So I made her a bottle, fed her and went back to sleep, this whole time he didn’t speak to me.

This morning he still wasn’t speaking to me and didn’t come into the living area to see our daughter. I asked him why he wasn’t speaking to me when all I said was you can’t make a bottle like that. But apparently he’s pissed at me because I get it easy, he said “you try working a full time job, finishing work, having a baby to care for and still doing house work”. I said I get it easy? I look after her full time, I can’t even shower till your on break, she cries non stop some days, why is it so wrong when your on break I need 5-10 minutes to myself? But he said that’s his time. He also said I clean when it suits me and the only thing I do is care for our daughter and cook. He said I’ve to stop knocking on the door and asking for help once in a blue moon because it’s my job to look after her. I apparently get it easy and to stop moaning🤦🏻‍♀️ I’m so tired, I go to bed early with our daughter because I’m so worn out, but I get it easy😂