Marriage counselor called me abusive

Me and my husband are in marriage counseling. We started 4 months ago because he emotionally cheated on me. It never went to anything physical but emotions were there. I was talking about how when I go up to hug my husband and cuddle him he gets annoyed with me and wants me to get off of him. He said how I do it just overstimulates him because I usually try to be funny. He will be laying in the bed to the side on his phone or reading a book and I come up behind him and jump on him for a cuddle. I thought I'm being cute. He just gets annoyed and tells me to get off of him. He told our marriage counselor he does want to love on me but when I scare him like that it just overstimulates him. She says "Kerri, continuously scaring someone with PTSD isn't romantic. It's abuse." I got super upset because I have never been called abusive in my entire life. I told her I have never abused him and she said "I'm not saying it's intentional. Just letting you know it's abusive to continuously scare someone with PTSD." My husband just sat there. Didn't defend me. I just had tears in my eyes and stormed out. I know it wasn't "right" but I have NEVER been called abusive before. It's just frustrating because the whole reason we are even here is because he stepped out emotionally. I'm not saying I shouldn't be called out when I do wrong but me trying to be cute and have fun with him and I'm abusive?