Help!

My daughter recently started daycare a month ago and one of her teachers are starting to make me rethink my decision. So there’s 2 teachers in the class and my daughter seems to only steer to the one teacher that “we” both like. She’s a super sweet girl, polite and professional. The other teacher is very dry and doesn’t seem to like her job. Well, a couple weeks ago I was talking to the “dry” teacher and the director let’s call the “dry” teacher Ann. I said my kid doesn’t seem to be too fond of you, is everything okay? Her reply “we have our days followed by a “shit face smile”. So, I just took that in and was like I’m still going to try and bond with her since she watch my kid 5-7 hours a day. Well…. Monday I went to pick up my kid from daycare and she was crying. I always look through her classroom window before picking her up just to make sure my kid and the other kids are being treated fairly. That’s just what I do 🤷🏽‍♀️

Apparently the teacher seen me before I seen her because she stands in front of my child and ask “are you hungry” my child is just standing there crying and finally she sees me and run over to me.

We get picture mail and messages throughout the day of how when she potty/nap/eat. Well, the first week we noticed she wasn’t eating their food which was likely due to it being a new setting so we asked if we can bring her food from home so she’ll have options to make sure she’s eating. The director told us we could with a doctors note. The doctors note stated “please allow the parents of my kid to bring lunch”. So, we got the notification earlier that day that she ate “none” food from home. So I asked the teacher if she was offered the school food and she said they didn’t have enough 🤔 I said what you mean y’all didn’t have enough? She said we didn’t have enough to give her today. I said but last week when I asked if yall offer school food when she doesn’t eat food from home and vice versa you told me yes. She just looked away and stood there. So I asked who do I need to talk to? She goes, Ms. (Director name) is right there in an unprofessional tone. I said what? She repeated herself and I walked over to the director and we went into her office to discuss the situation.

Now, the director tells me that she served lunch today and there wasn’t enough to go around and that the cafeteria worker usually goes back to my daughters classroom after she’s delivered lunch to other kids if she sees my daughter not eating lunch from home. She also mentioned that the doctors note I gave wasn’t acceptable since it didn’t mention “dietary need/restriction” but she looked over that and accepted it….

The next morning the director calls me and reiterate aboit what she mentioned the day before and NOW I would have to provide all of my daughters meal throughout the day OR they provide the meals. We agreed for them to provide so that my daughter will get in the hang of eating their food.

Yesterday I went to pick up my kid and Ann was sitting my kid down on her cot until nap time was over at 2:45p. She didn’t greet me and say anything to me or mv kid when we were leaving. Mind you the director had stopped me on the way in to let me know that she talked with both the teachers about what we discussed I told her that this teachers behavior needs to adjust. You can tell she hates her job, she wears sweatpants, bonnet and Nike slides with socks. So apparently she did not like the feedback I provided and it seems to have gotten worse.

I really like the daycare but I no longer trust her around my kid. She also shared a post on Facebook about how jobs want you to basically forget you have a life and expect you to come work. I also sent a message that my kid would be out of school today and she didn’t reply as she normally does but the director replied instead.

Sn: My husband doesn’t make enough for me to be a SAHM and we don’t have family or friends to help.

Advice please!!!!