Sex isn’t pleasing???

Question

I need advice/help. I’ve been with my boyfriend for a few months. He’s my first serious relationship. I lost my virginity to him and we’ve had sex probably like 8 times, but it just doesn’t feel like much to me. We’ve tried numerous positions and doing foreplay, but I CANNOT orgasm with him. I have orgasmed from masturbation, but not from him vaginally, orally, or from him touching me. I also can’t orgasm with him even when I’m touching myself. We also got a vibrator to try. It felt good at some points, but again, I just couldn’t orgasm. He loves having sex with me and never has a problem finishing, it’s just difficult on my end. And yes, he is aware it’s been difficult for me as we’ve communicated on the topic. Also, if it matters, he isn’t huge down there, but is probably slightly under average. Finally, I’m aware that not everyone can orgasm vaginally, I just want more pleasure from the sex we have, even if it has to be from him touching me a certain way.

Answer

It is completely normal to feel frustrated about not experiencing as much pleasure during sex as you would like. Many women do not orgasm through vaginal penetration alone, and every person has unique preferences and sensitivities when it comes to sexual pleasure. How can you make  sex more enjoyable and increase your chances of reaching orgasm? 
One of the biggest "secrets" is that your sexual response and pleasure comes mostly from stimulating your clitoris, not your vagina.  Your clitoris has only one job - creating orgasms. With its around 10,000 nerve endings, it is the most sensitive organs anywhere on a human body.
 
Explore Your Own Body Further:
 Since you have had orgasms from masturbation, remember the techniques or sensations that worked for you. Is it pressure, vibration, specific rhythms, or a certain position?
Try to communicate these preferences to your boyfriend. Guide him, either verbally or physically, during foreplay or sex. Be careful to not come off as bossy. Suggestions like "oh, that feels so good, do not stop" or " I really like more pressure. If you want, I can show you"
 
Indirect Clitoral Stimulation:
Based on what you said about preferring indirect stimulation, incorporate this into your sexual encounters. For example:
Using a vibrator over your clothes or a thin barrier during foreplay.
Positions where there’s external pressure on the clitoral area (like grinding against him during missionary or cowgirl).
Dry humping with underwear on.
 
Focus on Foreplay and Sensuality:
 
Build anticipation with prolonged kissing, touching, and teasing. Sometimes extended foreplay can enhance sensitivity and make climax more attainable.
Experiment with erotic massage, where you can relax and feel more connected to your partner without pressure to perform.
 
Experiment with Positions and Movement:
Certain positions may provide better external or internal stimulation. For example:
Cowgirl or reverse cowgirl allows you to control the angle and depth, and you can add clitoral stimulation.
Spooning is gentle and can allow you to focus on relaxation and intimacy.
Adding a pillow under your hips in missionary might change the angle and enhance sensations.
 
Embrace Non-Penetrative Intimacy:
Since orgasming through penetration isn’t a requirement for a fulfilling sex life, prioritize activities that bring you pleasure. Oral sex, mutual masturbation, or using toys together can feel just as intimate and satisfying.
 
Address Mental Blocks or Pressure:
Feeling pressure to orgasm can make it harder to relax and enjoy the moment. Let go of the idea that orgasm is the ultimate goal—focus on enjoying the connection, sensations, and the journey itself.
Practice mindfulness during sex. Pay attention to your body’s sensations rather than focusing on whether you’ll climax (or for that matter. Anything else)
 
Experiment with Vibrators Together:
You mentioned trying a vibrator, but if it didn’t quite work. Experiment more. Try different speeds, patterns, or ways of incorporating it—such as using it during penetration or having your partner hold it while stimulating you.
 
Talk More About What You Enjoy:
Open communication with your boyfriend is key. Share what’s working and what isn’t in a positive, constructive way. For example:
“I love when you do [specific touch or action], can we try that for a little longer"
“It feels amazing when you [describe a move], but could we slow it down a bit?”
 
Be Patient and Kind with Yourself:
It’s normal to take time to learn what you enjoy with a partner. You’re both still discovering each other’s bodies and preferences.

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Size doesn’t matter. Penetration is not it. 
Women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm. You need to be turned on, mind and body, and relaxed.

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Sex isn’t pleasing???

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