Will my son forget being touched? Will I ever not be mad?
So about a year ago my 6 year old son spent the night at his grandma’s house and got inappropriately touched by another kid that was there (11 year old) and I think about it all the time and it still makes me mad. It was the first time he ever spent the night anywhere away from me. I know I can’t shelter my kids to the point that they can’t even sleep over at their own grandparents house, and it should have been perfectly safe but they let the other kid also spend the night so my son would have someone to hang out with. I’m mad that they let him be alone for a period of time unsupervised with a child that much older than him that he’s not too familiar with. Forget the age difference, any kids shouldn’t be left together unsupervised. Their excuse was they were cooking. I get it, you have to do things.. but then tell the kids to hang out near by in a common area where you can easily keep an eye on them, not off in a bedroom with the door shut. It just haunts me on what actually happened. My son is very forgetful when retelling stories and has a hard time remembering details and retelling things correctly. But he told me the boy did stuff to his private area and told him he had to do it back or he will turn into a girl and my son told him no but he basically manipulated him into it and made my son promise not to tell anyone. He also told him they had to do it again any time they see each other again. it’s the FIRST thing he told me when he came back home and I’m so glad he knew to tell and didn’t listen to that boy! I tried to push it out of my mind but it makes me so mad when I think about it and I feel so bad for my son that he went through that. He was probably scared and confused. He doesn’t ever mention it anymore and has been a long while since he did. But I know that’s most likely not something that can be forgotten. I just don’t want any damage to be done to my son and I think about it a lot and just get mad because it could have been prevented. that would not have happened if i was there. Two kids who barely know each other and also have a significant age difference shut in a bedroom together for a long time is crazy to me.
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