Help! My husband secretly recorded us having sex

Ma

So long story short. We were having sex, specifically doggy, when I felt JUST his right hand on my bottom and never both hands. I didn’t think too hard on it until toward us finishing I heard a soft plop on the bed like he threw down his phone and I looked over and it was his phone. Meaning he was recording me while having sex. He NEVER asked if I wanted to make a video that night and I have stated a few times to him that I do not feel comfortable recording our intimate moments despite being married. I didn’t say anything since I’m scared of confrontation so I moved on. Later on while he sleeps I go through his phone and true enough the video is there. Plus MORE! I never once consented to any of these and he never told me about them either. I also went through his messages and they are ALL deleted except for a few family members. Now I’m scared he might’ve sent the video to people while I was in the bathroom after sex. I am disgusted and horrified. I don’t know what to do please help.

Edit: I didn’t want to make the post long but thought it be good to add more details. This isn’t the first time he has done this. When we first got married he made a video of us in secret and showed me later after we were done. I was horrified and got upset with him, he tried to justify that it was dark in the video and only can hear the sounds etc. finally he agreed to delete it and told me he would never do it again. And that’s when we had a long discussion about how I felt about these sort of things. Since this, I know he purposely is holding those videos and doesn’t plan on telling me since I would have the same reaction. Which adds to my horror since it has happened before. I just can’t trust him anymore. I do plan on talking to him about it, I hate confrontation but it’s something that needs to be discussed.

Update: Thank you to all the comments and helpful advice. Y’all are kind and appreciate it so much. I went ahead and confronted him with the videos and the situation. He apologized and deleted the videos. He said he did not recall the first time he had done this (story is in the second edit). He said they were for himself whenever he’s alone and that he’s going to never do this again and apologized for his actions. I reminded him that it’s a crime and illegal in our state. I told him was I was halfway packing my stuff and wanting to leave the house when I decided to talk to him first. We came to a conclusion and I’m going to try again with him. I will say that I kept the evidence and I will report it if this situation or something similar arises again. I do want to try again before calling it quits especially since we’re not even a year in our marriage but I told him I will leave if he ever disrespects me in any manner again. Thank y’all so much again!

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