Should a man be getting alimony from his ex wife?

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I'm conflicted on this. My BIL was just awarded alimony from his wife that they just divorced. My BIL isn't a bad person but his wife would complain to me about him just drifting away from her and her needs not being met emotionally. She would constantly talk to him but he wouldn't change. She had been unhappy a long time.
The reason he gets alimony is because she was the main bread winner because back in 2017, she was at fault for a very bad car accident they got into. She was drunk driving and he suffered severe injuries. Was wheelchair bound for several years. He can kind of walk now but is very disabled both mentally and physically. He has brain damage. She never drank again after that and has really bad guilt. But now she has to pay him alimony. 
On one hand, he was dependent on her and it's kind of her fault. I get the point of alimony is to help the other spouse get back on their feet. Especially if they gave up having a job to be home for you. He was forced to give it up 
But on the other hand the marriage did end because he wasn't meeting her needs and it feels like punishing a woman for ending an unhappy marriage. My husband said he would agree with me if she was paying alimony if his brother abused her or cheated but he was just emotionally unavailable. Idk. What do you guys think?
Edit: I am in no way defending her poor choices. I don't think it's my place to judge her because end of the day he forgave her. This all happened in 2017 so for 8 years she DID stick by his side while he was trying to heal. I also can't judge her for leaving because I'm sure it was a hard decision. She feels guilty for what she did and never drank again. By her needs weren't being met I am pretty sure she meant emotionally because she mentioned to me on several occasions that she felt like they were drifting apart and living more like roommates than husband and wife. Also he does get some disability money monthly. I suppose when it comes down to it this really isn't my business anyway.

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I’m sure her causing him to be permanently disabled played a part in him being uninterested in the marriage. That would take a lot to come back from. Yes she should have to pay him alimony.

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This feels like rage bait. I wonder if you’d be saying the same thing if roles were switched, that the court is “punishing a man” even though he’s the only one with income. Nobody would be given alimony if it were solely based on emotional needs. She doesn’t get to skip out on paying it just because she’s sad her needs weren’t met or whatever. She’s the only with income because she caused him to be disabled and therefore has to pay him alimony. Nothing hard to understand about this.

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Regardless on why the marriage ended. He is unable to work because of her. He should be granted alimony.

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Wait…so she’s saying her husband who see caused to be physically and mentally disabled isn’t there for her emotionally? Is this post even real? Alimony aside (which she needs to pay) she has some serious issues.

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He couldn’t meet her needs due to being mentally and physically disabled. She CAUSED that. He 100% deserves the alimony. He’s going to be disabled for the rest of his life. How do you not understand that? This is a consequence. It doesn’t matter if she stood by him or not. She ruined his quality of life forever by her irresponsible and deadly actions. I do not pity the ex wife. I hope she pays a lot of alimony each month!

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He should absolutely get alimony. She ruined his life

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He should get alimony. She’s the reason he can’t work.

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You dont even know what went on in their marriage or why they split up. You only know her side and its very common for the person at fault to spread lies to the others family to make themselves seem innocent. My ex husband told his whole family that I was pulling away from him and cheating on him (which I never did at all) when in reality he was becoming abusive and I left before it got worse. Again, you only know what SHE is telling you. As for her "sort of" being responsible for what happened to your brother, there is no "sort of". She is 100% responsible. She was driving drunk and wrecked and it directly resulted in your brother's injuries and being bound to a wheelchair barely able to walk, as well as brain damage. It does not matter if he forgave her or stayed with her, she is still 100% responsible. So with all of that on top of her making more money than him, what exactly is your problem with your brother receiving alimony from her? Do you for some reason think that alimony is just supposed to be paid to the women in a divorce? Whatever caused their divorce, he is now stuck trying to get back on his feet and having to find ways to care for himself or afford someone to care for him. That's hard enough without being disabled, now add barely able to walk with brain damage on top of that. His ex wife should definitely be having to pay him. 
I'm curious if you would be saying the same things if the gender roles were reversed, and he was having to pay her alimony after causing her to be brain damaged and barely able to walk.

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Are you for real? 1. That’s not why people get alimony lol 2. She fucked up his brain and then complained his brain didn’t work right? He absolutely deserves to be compensated.

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You’re ridiculous. 
He absolutely deserves alimony.

Should a man be getting alimony from his ex wife?

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