I don’t know what to do anymore.

Before my daughter was born five years ago, my husband Was very intimate, so much so than I was the one saying not now, but since being pregnant and giving birth he barely touches me, I try instigate, but he never wants to anymore, we have sex once a month sometimes a few months apart.

I put on weight while I was pregnant and he talks about it all the time telling me I should lose it or get weightloss surgery, I have been trying to lose it and I didn’t really think I was that big but when it turns me away I feel so unappealing, I feel like I should just give up trying at this point.