Does your husband consider watching the kids babysitting?

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Everytime I need to go to school or somewhere without the kids, my husband complains that he has to babysit (our kids). Majority of the time my two boys go everywhere with me, even to a Pap appointment unfortunely :/ . My husband has the freedom to go to the gym whenever, leave the house whenever he feels stress. I do none of that, I'm an online student full time with my 12 month old at home and I'm busy helping my older son with his ADHD and taking him to services. Worse part for me is that my friend who has an aggressive breast cancer is moving to NY for better medical treatment. I want to hangout with her for one last time with no distractions, just girl time and my husband won't support that because he will be "babysitting" the kids, instead of attending a health fair. I am beyond frustrated at this point and reconsidering this marriage. He has been selfish for so many years.

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Men are dumb .... Just tell him when it's your own kids it's not baby sitting it's called being a dad

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There's no such thing as babysitting your own kids. He sounds like a little boy, not a man.

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Oh hell no!!! It's called being a parent, you deserve some time to yourself too hun, I would have a talk to him and tell him to grow the hell up!!! Whoops sorry angry pregnancy hormones are coming out lol

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Tell them that they are his kids and it would mean the world to you if he took care of his kids for a change. If he cared about you and the kids he wouldn't mind babysitting for a night and hopefully more. Good luck.

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My SO gets upset when he hears other dads complaining that they have to "babysit" their kids. He likes having daddy day when I'm working or have errands to do. Not all guys are like that tho. Try bluntly telling him that you both made the kids so you both need to step up and look after them. He needs to understand that you need time away from the kids because it is healthier for everybody. Less stressful wife makes it better for all

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Watching your own children is NOT babysitting...I am not sure where men come up with this notion.  It sounds like you have probably already expressed your feelings to your husband, maybe marriage counseling would benefit your relationship if he is willing to participate (if you haven't already done this).  I hope he makes changes so that your family is happier.  Wishing you all the best.

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I'm so sorry for your situation, that sounds very frustrating. It appears that there is a larger issue of your sense that some of his decisions are made without consideration for you. It might give you a more lasting solution to approach the topic using this as an example to talk through. Whenever there is something like this with me and my SO, I have to work hard to remember to say things in a way that conveys that I dislike the behavior but don't think that he himself is a terrible person.
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​Good luck!

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That's how my ex was, and that's why he's an ex, and my son refer to him as step-dad and when I ask him why he say because he doesn't play with me, spend time with me, take care of me like you and daddy do, he's always on his phone or in the room with his gf or working and fixing the car, my son is 7.. He refer to my husband as daddy and his hero... My husband has no problem with spending time with him or pick him up from school etc like a father would do for their kid(s) I'm thankful I found the best man ever that love my (our)  son like his own.. He gets upset if I refer to our son as "my" because that's his baby boy in heart.. ❤❤❤❤

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No, my husband sees it as him being a parent and doing what needs to be done, but I hardly ever go anywhere without my son and husband in tow, but that's my choice.

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I know it's not as easy as walking away when you're married but I would be to fed up to the point of divorcing. I've told my husband he better never act like this when the baby is born because there will be no marriage if that's his attitude. He should feel excited to have bonding time with his kids. If nothing else works and you decide to divorce him just know that no woman NEEDS a man to raise their children. You'll just have to continue being superwoman. Good luck to you.

Does your husband consider watching the kids babysitting?

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