When did you start TTC?

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Im feeling so frustrated! I think it's because I just turned 27 a few weeks ago and 27/28 was always my ideal age to have my first baby. 
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​My husband and I have been married for a year (but together almost nine years total). We've been more than ready emotionally/mentally for a few years now but are still struggling to figure everything out financially. We actually started trying over the summer but decided to take a break after two or three months to try and save up some money first. Mainly bc my job doesn't offer paid leave, but also we've been wanting to buy a house forever and we live in an apartment around heavy smokers which is not really something I want to deal with while pregnant.
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​After budgeting and budgeting we decided there is no way we can continue living in our large apartment and save any money. So we're not trying to get out of our lease and stay with my parents for a few months so the $1500 a month we spend on rent can go toward the things we really need to start a family.
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​But the longer it takes to find someone to take over our lease the more stressed I'm getting... And I also really don't want to spend a large amount of my pregnancy as a married person living with my parents. Luckily we are the first of our friends to be married/thinking about kids, so no pressure there... but so many of our cousins on both sides already have young kids, one of my cousins who is close in age to me is already on her second pregnancy and I can't help but feel envious!
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​Another reason I want to start trying ASAP is because I am at risk for having endometriosis. I've had two ultrasounds and they haven't found any scarring, which is good, my uterus is a normal size, I had one ovarian cyst but thankfully it resolved. However they won't do any more invasive testing (biopsy, tube test) until we've been TTC unsuccessfully for 6+ months. I've been terrified about infertility for almost a decade now and it's killing me not knowing.
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​I don't know... I just want to be pregnant more than anything else I've ever wanted! But I just feel like the timing is all off and I've just been nervous and frustrated and worried and impatient lately. :(
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​Anyway thanks for letting me rant, let me know if you have any advice on when you knew it was the right time, or how you got around or even ignored some of the obstacles that might have made you put off trying for longer?
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Answer

Hello,

I'm also 27 and am in a similar position to you.

I suffer with anxiety and depression and have been really well up until a few weeks ago when I changed my medication.  I had to change as the medication I was on is unsafe in pregnancy.  I am now off work and crippled with severe anxiety and depression :'(

We haven't started ttc yet as I need to get my medication sorted am feel well again.

I feel so angry as we had planned to start ttc this month and were both so excited. ..now its not going to happen :'(.

We have wanted a baby for so long and every time I feel the time is right something gets in the way. ..maybe it's s way of saying now is not the right time?

Everyone I know is either pregnant or already has children...when will it be my turn?!

I too feel like my biological clock is ticking but like you do not feel it's the right time.

I think it's important you are in a good place before having a baby. I know it's hard when all you see are pregnant people everywhere but just think how much better it will be when you have your own space.

Unless you are a millionaire I don't think anyone is financially ready but having a place of your own is important.  Is there anywhere cheaper you can move to or could you ask family for a little financial help with baby bits?

You also have a whole 9 months plus the time it takes you to get pregnant to save some money.

Xxx

When did you start TTC?

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