How to control anger?

Question

I have a really bad temper and if people come at me attacking me like I did something wrong I can't seem to control it and I go crazy. My auntie recently passed away which is affecting me so much and if people come at me like I'm a bad person I tend to snap and can't let shit go. It's been hard for me to just let stuff go but I don't wanna be this type of person anymore I tried talking to a counselor didn't help.

Answer

Being aware of what triggers you is a good start. There's usually an underlying reason for angry outbursts, so finding the root cause and working on healing from that is your best chance at permanently resolving it. In the meantime, when you feel triggered, just remember that you decided that don't want to be that person, and start deep breathing. Walk away and breathe. Breathe deep, in through your nose, all the way into your belly, you'll see your belly rise, then exhale fully and repeat. You can also try meditating for at least 5 minutes each morning before you get out of bed. There's an app called Stop, Breathe, Think that has short guided meditations you can use. Meditations for compassion will help you be more compassionate toward yourself and others. Lastly, be aware of your feelings when they are triggered and make a conscious decision on how you will choose to express your anger.

Answer

Find a reason worth controlling your anger for. When I had my son, I was able to control myself in ways I never knew I could. Also, maybe a different counselor might be worth a try...one who specializes in anger management. Good luck

How to control anger?

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