Is this normal?

Question

When I was 15 I lost my virginity to this guy that thought loved me but really didn't I was so stupid we had sex the very first month of our relationship and we did 3 times we didn't even last at all only lasted 4 months or less but anyways. Now I'm 17 gonna be 18 in about 3 months I been with my current boyfriend for 8 months he is amazing no doubt in my mind that I love him and that he loves me ...we have not had sex yet but idk why but now that I'm older I'm absolutely terrified of sex its like I try to ignore it as much as possible... I'm so scared of it... I know that there's birth control and condoms to prevent pregnancy but I would much rather not do it at all im so terrified... Idk what my problem is. Like has this ever happened to anyone? My boyfriend thinks of sex as a way of giving your all to the person you love but Im just so scared I feel like I will never enjoy sex or anything.

Answer

Talk to him. Communication is VERY important 
Good luck :)

Answer

It's ok to not want to have sex yet. Don't let him talk you into it by saying he loves you. I'm not saying he doesn't love you but if he loves you he can wait until you're ready

Answer

Because you had a bad experience with the first guy you lost your virginity to, sex seems terrifying to you. It makes sense. You might want to try seeing a counselor to help work through it but don't do it if you don't feel ready. Talk to your partner and slowly work your way to it. If he's willing to wait then you know he's worth it.

Answer

That's sad. If you love him and trust him it should be ok. We all have irrational feelings sometimes, and you definitely need to talk to him. Good luck.

Answer

I think you lost your virginity when you weren't ready. Sometimes we do things for other people because we care about them. Talk to your current boyfriend if you haven't already and help him understand that it's not him and that you just need time. Just because you are in a relationship with someone doesn't mean you have to have sex. If you want to have sex with him but you are scared maybe start out with some slow touching maybe let him play with you a bit and just stop when you need to. I think in time you will know when you're ready and really that's all that matters. Not what he wants, but what you want and what you are ready for. I think he loves you very much because if he didn't he'd definitely be putting a lot of pressure on you to have sex. I hope this helps you.  Good luck!! ^_^

Answer

Maybe you feel this way because having sex with someone got you hurt and you think that having sex again will cause that. If you've been with your bf that long I personally think he's not after sex and you should feel safe with him

Is this normal?

Let’s Glow

Glow is here for you on your path to pregnancy

25+ million

4.8 stars

20+

Getting Pregnant

Pregnancy

1st Year (Baby & You)

Baby Products