Is it love still ?

Question

My fiancé and I have been together for almost 6 years now. About almost 2 years of being together we became sexually active, after that it was 3-5 times a day ! But after we had our son it slowed down to like 5 times a week....then eventually baby #2 came. Now it's normally 2-4 times a week. Besides the sex, we have been through hell and back (a few times) together an we love each other to death for sure.. But I just feel like the past month since he started his new job mon-fri 9am-5:30pm he's slowly and slowly drifted away. We live together but as soon as he gets home he just sits on Facebook or watches YouTube videos, barely ever wants to spend time with me,(he will spend some time with the kids but not much) and passes out super early. We haven't had any sex in over a week which is really weird for us and I just feel like he's not attracted to me anymore and just doesn't love me as much. Maybe I'm overthinking but he's been pretty mean to me thinking I got life easy cause I go to school for a couple hours everyday and come home to take care of our son. He just picks fights a lot (I mean I'll confront him about things too but he starts over stupid shit cause he can't find a shirt he's looking for and starts talking shit to me for example) I mean I know he still loves me and I love him too but I don't know if this is like the beginning of the end, ya know ? Opinions please.... Am I overreacting or overthinking , or do you think I should be worried ...? Thanks if you read this BOOK to help me out......
UPDATE: since I can't comment without it being anonymous, I do let him know how happy I am for him to be home and am super nice and let him know how proud I am of him and happy to be with him, I also brought up the sex topic too. But he just comes home in a bad mood and yells and me or makes it very clear he's aggravated and just goes in the room for hours and sits on his phone. I tried to confront him (in a pretty respectful matter) not too long ago basically saying "why dont you do anything with me? You've been watching YouTube videos for like 3 hours now..I just feel like you're not happy with me anymore, like you're getting tired of me" and he said "why do you have to be such a bitch?" and "yeah, I am tired of you ! (Yelling)"

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Sounds like the new job is just stressing him out. He needs an adjustment period and you need to tell him that while you understand that work is hard, that doesn't give him an excuse to come home and be both absent and an ass.

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Although its.a hard adjustment right now, try to be on the more.optimistic end and give him the benefit of the doubt.  My husband works close.to 60hrs a week and although he's home.to eat dinner and help get the kids to bed, I know he'd rather veg on the couch.  Hes exhausted and we usually only have sex 1-2x/week (usually weekends only) and its been 3 weeks for us due to us both just being tired, helping out with our nephew while my brother abd his wife had their 2nd baby, and then helping out with my grabdparents who are havung health issues.

Life gets busy....That being said, I don't think it would hurt to maybe express your support and tell him how much you miss sex with him.  Many times, sex is the instant connector in marriages and if you're used to it happening so frequently, not having it will make you feel unwanted and distant.  More than likely he's exhausted and YouTube videos are just humdrum....they take no brain power and require no important decision making.

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Welcome him home and be loving and supportive hold your tongue on small things and don't be shy about upping the amount of sweetness you can use. When he gets home be excited and give him a I missed you so much kiss and then ask about his day and listen quietly if he says something than attempt to agree with him on the matter if he is upset. Also I would suggest telling him that you miss sex with him and that if he would be okay with it you both can plan a couple nights or even just one to play. He may be exhausted after work but never feel bad about it if he falls asleep early or just spaces out for the first few weeks. It's tough working the 9-5 grind and supporting the family. Make him feel like the bread winner and be proud if his working :) He'll figure it out and you can always ask to snuggle and watch videos with him~

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Nip it in the bud. Express very adamantly your feelings about his actions lately. Let him know you understand that he is adjusting to a new job/new schedule but that doesn't change his responsibilities to both you as his partner and y'alls kids as a father. Be supportive and lend an ear if he wants to vent about anything work related but definitely convey the message clearly that the way he's acting is out of line and not acceptable to you.

Is it love still ?

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