My bf wants adoption, I don't. What should I do?

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My boyfriend really doesn't want our baby. He really wants to give him up for adoption. I really don't! His family is super exicted for the baby and everyone else too. I'm living with him and his parents, and his mom arranged a way to be able to give the baby his own room and we get ours. Just while we save money. 
My boyfriend is mean to me, hardly spends time with me and says that he doesn't want to be with me for the rest of his life, that's another reason why he wants adoption. 
Now I'm thinking should I just leave him and not tell him anything about the baby, not when the baby's born nothing. 
Or should I continue being with him, wait till the baby gets here and see if he'll change? 
Any advice ladies? :/

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I'd sit him and his mother down and lay it all out for them both honestly not hiding, covering or protecting him or any of the harsh shit he's told you. Telling her what her son wants that he wants to walk away from you and this baby, and to give it up for adoption, which is something you aren't going to do. PERIOD. Tell them you have no problem walking away but he'll need to sign over his parental rights so that whoever you're with in the future can adopt the baby. And see what they say and go from there.

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P.s. Don't even entertain the idea of staying with a man who says he wants you to give up your child and two says he doesn't want to spend the rest of his life with you and treats you badly. Is that all you think you can get and deserve? Where's your pride doll? Why would you willingly settle for that? Come on now.

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Have him sign over his rights so that he has no legal rights to the child and in the future, a real man will come along into your life and can adopt your son. I would probably talk to his mother - she wants to be in this child's life, and it sucks to keep her out because her son is a douche. But if he's demanding adoption, I would definitely get him to give up his rights.

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No one can make you do something you don't want to do. Have him sign over his rights after baby is born if he wants nothing to do with the baby. He sounds extremely selfish

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I'd say cool I'll adopt your child. And be done with him lol

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I would definitely not choose adoption if there is a way to make it work, with or without him. You can try to give him time to come around but know that you may have to let go for now. Is there a way to split and still keep your current living situation? If not you should probably find some back up options for the future just in case. I would give him time.

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If you want to keep the baby and your forced into adoption by this bully you will have to live to regret it for the rest if your life. You may be doing what makes him happy now, but he's already said he doesn't want to spend his life with you. So when he leaves and you have lost him AND your baby is gone, then what?. Keep your baby it's your little miracle! Xx

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Your child is lucky to have you. Your bf has some growing to do. Hang in there. There are a lot of resources to help you. Id be happy to discuss with you if you want

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I would leave him.  Where are your parents ?

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Adoption has bless my life with the past 2 babies I have had! I was raped with my first and my second one the dad wanted nothing to do with me I was 21 and had her I had no way to support my babies so I chose adoption! I would have a long conversation with your bf! If he won't mature it's your choice as the baby's mother!

My bf wants adoption, I don't. What should I do?

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