Am I horrible to be thinking this?

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I'm posting this anonymously because I honestly feel awful for having these thoughts but I desperately need someone's opinion... Me and my boyfriend are 18, we've been together officially for 3 years although I lost my virginty to him when we were 13 and we had a kind of relationship for a bit but we were obviously very young and went our different ways, were with other people ect. I know 18 is still very young but my point is we have a lot of history and we both consider this a serious relationship.

We're going to university together in September and always talk about how excited we are to start our life together and be able to have our own place, independence and eventually a family and all that grown up stuff 😳 99% of me knows I love him and even though I realise we might break up as we're both young and have our whole lives to meet other people, I really don't want that and only want him. Buuuuuuut there is this 1% that thinks maybe he is not the person I'm meant to be with?? I don't have feelings for anybody else and the thought of us breaking up/me being with another person makes me nervous and so sad... It just makes me feel weird. But at the same time the thought of meeting someone completely new and exciting at university has been crossing my mind more and more lately :( is this horrible or just normal? Please don't judge me I really do feel terrible about it 
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That 1% could be there even if you met your boyfriend 10 years from now. I don't think it's horrible, but it is kind of silly to think you'll meet someone new and exciting--all relationships are exciting at first, but eventually that novelty will wear off. I'd say be serious about your relationship, and if neither of you are hurting the other, consider yourself lucky. You may always have a nagging "what-if" in the back of your mind regarding some fantasy guy, but then you may also wonder what your life could have been like with your boyfriend if you leave him. Nothing is perfect in life. Eventually you have to make decisions and live with them.

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This is totally normal when you are with the wrong person or the timing is wrong. I'm not saying it's because you are young because I met my husband at 16 and I'm 25 now and we're happily married with a lil boy. Be honest with yourself, it's more than 1% doubt. Going to college will either make or break the relationship. Have a chat with him, he might feel the same. If you do end the relationship and yez are apart for a few years you both might meet again and start a new fresh relationship, I more grown up and secure relationship 😊

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It's normal .  I think  you shouldn't  get serious  that young . Have  fun . Don't regret  your  college  years

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I feel EXACTLY the same. We'll both be going to uni next year and we've been together for almost two years. I don't think it's bad to think like that. I love my boyfriend more than anything in the world but at the end of the day when we're at different unis there is a possibility we'll break up. Everything happens for a reason. Just enjoy your relationship whilst you can and see where it takes you X

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First of all, don't let anyone here tell you if you should marry him or not. Only you can know that. But here's what I wish someone told me: you change soooo much in your early adulthood. If you can just hold off so that you can be more sure. You could grow up a ton and be a totally different person in 3 years- and so could he. And you want to be happy with your life decision. Not have regrets and a bad mark on your history. Just be careful and mindful :)

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That's normal! Don't worry about it, and don't feel bad. If anyone says you should feel 100% about it, they're lying because there will always be doubts. If you're willing to work through them though, then that means you live him.

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It's not horrible you are young. When I was your age going off to college I wasn't sure about staying with my boyfriend. We split up for about 6 months and talked to other people but in the end all he wanted was me and I only wanted him. 6 years later we've been married for over a year and we're expecting our first baby. 
Sometimes you need to see what's out there to make sure what you have is really what you want. 18 is the age to do that. Don't wait till its 10,years later and you're married to see what's out there.

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It's not horrible of you to think that, like you said you're still very young, so it's not weird for you to be wondering what else is out there. But I mean if you're happy with your relationship now, you should try to stick with it.

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I don't know why you needed to post this anon they are perfectly normal thoughts to have your still so young!! I know your an adult but really your still only a child and you may very well break when you get to uni once you meet differently people and find new experiences and start going out more it happens but it's all part of growing up and maybe you will stay together you'll just have to wait and see but don't worry about just take it as it comes everyone has these thoughts! Even if they say they don't

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Same!

Am I horrible to be thinking this?

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