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So I'm currently 4 months pregnant with my first and I just found out today that my husband has been smoking heroin for the past month. He has struggled with painkillers in the past but nothing as serious as this. He needs help but I don't know anything about rehab or detoxing or things like that other than he's already got flu like symptoms. Where do we go from here? We had a vacation planned for a week in 2 weeks, thinking of cancelling to get him into a treatment of there is such a thing as like a 4 day inpatient thing. I just don't know what to do. Anyone been through this? Any advice on how to get him the help he wants and needs?

***UPDATE*** my husband has gone through detox and has been clean for a little over a month. He says having me there to talk to openly about the whole thing has made him realize that he isn't in this alone and was foolish to ever feel that way. Obviously I'm still wary and watchful but he has been honest with me about every urge or text from a dealer/user (whose numbers he has now blocked) I don't want to get too spiritual but I believe in God and that everything happens for a reason and while it was heartbreaking to go through I feel stronger and closer to my husband than ever. I'm so thankful that we found the strength to overcome this together. I believe love is loving someone despite their flaws and imperfections (as long as it is a safe environment of course) which now it is THANK GOD!

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Definitely get him into treatment and if that doesn't work get you and your baby out of that situation. Working in law enforcement and having a husband in law enforcement I know very well that heroine is not something you want to be around. That shit will ruin your life even if you aren't using it. Get far away from it.

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I work as an emergency room nurse, and we often treat patients like this.  If he is starting to go through withdrawal, he may qualify for an inpatient rehab facility, however every state is different in their admission requirements.  I would start at the hospital bc they will be able to monitor him and make sure he detoxes safely. Ask for help from the social worker and they should be able to get you set up with the resources you need. Good luck - sending love and prayers to you!

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If you want him to be a present clean father he needs to make the right sacrifice now and go to rehab. As long as he wants to get clean, he can get through a program successfully before the baby comes. I do not suggest even living in the same house once the baby comes of he does not get clean.

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There isn't a 4 day treatment plan. He needs to commit to becoming clean and admitting he has a problem. That takes time, not to mention the time it'll take for him to try and replace those habits. You should look into getting him into treatment.

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What *does* he want? If he wants to get clean, I would suggest finding an NA meeting in your area and having him try that first (na.org)- so he can meet other addicts and get suggestions.

Being dopesick sucks- but I went through it, and if I hadn't, I'd probably still be using today. That's not for everyone- some people have other health concerns that require monitoring while getting off the dope. Over 2 years later, I'm still not "so clean" that I don't forget that I never want to be dopesick again.

I wish you guys the best of luck, and if he's scared, tell him that staying clean is just a matter of not using one day at a time. That's all he has to do for the next 24 hours.

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Look I'm going to be honest and this is hard for me I never told anyone so please don't judge me you didn't know my situation. I was addicted to painkillers for 3 Years and was so bad I almost went to heroine. I was on the urge of losing my family and getting my kids token away. I tried the withdrawal but don't let him get clean on his own. It can really kill you the pain is so bad you rather died. So I got my self into treatment.no there is not a four day treatment this takes longer to heal. I been clean for two years now. I'm in treatment now and it's called a methadone treatment it helps takes the cravings away and let me live a normal life.

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No advice, but sending well wishes to your family. I hope your husband gets well

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