He's depressed? (Long post)

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My man recently admitted to me that he hasn't been happy the last number of months. He says that he feels like everything he does is a chore. He goes to work because he has to, and only works hard because he wants to climb the corporate ladder. He only stays with me because we're starting a family and it's what he should do to keep things progressing. He gets time alone, and favourite movies and video games don't even excite him anymore. He said that he only plays them still because he lokes seeing the progression, but hates doing it.
He's been sleeping a lot lately, comes home from work and goes right to bed. Lays in bed all day on weekends and at night, has a hard time staying asleep. He complains about nightmares and how he wakes up randomly and starts thinking and gets too stressed out to get back to sleep.
He moved accross the country almost two years ago and left his family and all his friends for his job. Now him and his old friends are starting to drift apart and he said that other than me, it feels like he has no one to talk to. I've tried to get him to allow us to go back to his hometown to visit with everyone, but he doesn't even want to do that.
We've been having problems in our relationship the last few weeks, which started over a tiny fight and ended with us breaking up for a day. We've been in therapy since, but he's never gotten 'deep' while we're there. He told me in confidence yesterday and I don't know how to help. I want him to be happy again.
We just bought a house, and he's been under a lot of stress trying to get everything done for that. He's struggling with a hard project at work and I know that's been hard on him too. And to top it off, I'm 22 weeks with an unexpected pregnancy that he didn't originally want. He says that he's excited and happy about it now, but he never really talks about it so I can't tell if that's true or not.
Has anyone been here before? I don't know what to do for him. I've been extra nice lately, letting him do what he wants and have been taking over all the house work and trying to relieve him of extra stress. The worst is that he's hid it from me for so long. He pretended everything was okay and only started showing symptoms a few weeks ago. Any (positive) advice is much needed! Thanks for reading!

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It sounds like depression. Encourage him to talk to his doctor. There's nothing "weak" or shameful about admitting you need help. An antidepressant could help immensely, even if it is just short term.

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1. He needs to start getting therapy on his own.
2. Meditation, meditation, meditation. Tell him to put on some headphones (must use headphones) go on youtube, search binaural beats, and clear his mind.
3. Is weed legal where you live? Lol really though.

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Seems like y'all need to open up more to one another and communicate better. I wish u the best. A wise woman builds her house and a foolish woman tears her house down. So with that being said fight for him. That's ur future. #facts101

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He needs to talk to someone my dad suffers with depression and when ever he is a bit down or not himself there's always a reason and I will try and talk to him sometimes 3 hours straight and it helps him ALOT but he is also on medication which help to but sounds like your husbands needs to see a doctor xx

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My husband is depressed too. I took his ass to the dr and got him started on antidepressants. He's taking brintellix which is newer and it has done such amazing things. They also have him Ativan to help him sleep too. Been about a month and he's back to working on his hot rod, helping more with the kids, and working in the yard. Worth a shot. Good luck to you!!

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He needs to admit the real reason he is depressed. My man was very depressed for awhile. He still suffers from time to time but he's a lot better

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He might feel held back talking to the therapist in front of you he doesn't want to disappoint you or hurt your feeling because you are the mother of his baby. It sounds like trauma! Moving across the globe leaving behind the grandparents of his baby. You're doing what you can for being in your condition and some times that's all you can do. There are SSRI's that can help with his symptoms like fatigue and lack of motivation. He may not have wanted the baby at the time but when he/she comes it will light up his world. Good luck and have patience, depression is a very hard thing and you have to let him know he can talk to you about anything and if you think he already knows that try reminding him. Reassurance is important. Showing him strength will make him strong again :) good luck mama to be!!

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True depression is researched as an inflammatory disease. I would focus on getting better nutrition into both of you. If you live in the north you need Vit D from October through May at least. Stress plows through your reserve of B vitamins, so get blood work done to see where he stands, and then ramp up on a good b complex daily

A lot can go on emotionally,  but I think we forget to look at the raw physiology and how it effects both subconscious and conscious thought. 
Most of our serotonin is created in the gut, so our gut health getting out of wack can screw up emotional well being. Work with a good ND. Get acupuncture.  There are a lot of wonderful resources available. Maybe get him into a marshal arts class or such to make new friends and work out frustrations?

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It sounds like depression to me.. The only thing you can do is try to talk to him and encourage him.

He's depressed? (Long post)

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