In laws visiting after baby is born?
Hey ladies. Just wondering what everyone plans on doing once baby is born concerning visitors. I am 34 weeks and this gives me so much anxiety. My husband and I will let everyone see her at the hospital that wants to, but once we go home, we don't want visitors (outside of maybe my own mother if I need help) for at least the first two weeks.
My only main concern is my husbands parents. They do not live in town (about 4.5 hours away) and therefore will have to get a hotel room for the few days they decide to stay once she is a few weeks old. But I'm worried about what to do with them while they are here? His parents are both older and I don't feel comfortable asking them to help around the house (they cannot climb stairs easily and his mother needs a cane). I don't want them to basically sit around expecting to hold baby girl all day long. But I also don't feel right expecting them to come for an hour here or there and asking them to leave when it's feeding/nap time. I just don't know how to juggle the two because I know they will be excited to spend time with her, I will just feel incredibly annoyed at them "hanging out" all day while feeling so exhausted. I get very cranky easily as is lol.
I'm not trying to sound selfish, I just truly don't know what would be right or expected. With my parents it is different since they live about 10 minutes away, I have no problem with asking them to leave when I feel like they may have overstayed their welcome, and they would take no offense either. I can't say that much for my husbands parents since they don't live here and I feel they will assume they can stay as long as they like each day. It doesn't help that my FIL is very overbearing to begin with. I just don't want to be stuck in a situation where for 3 days we are expected to let them sit at our house and hold baby the whole entire time. It's extremely stressful to even think about considering they are not really familiar with newborns themselves (my husband was adopted and they didn't get him til he was almost 7 months old plus it's been almost 30 years!), and they may not understand if my husband and I need to just retire to our room and sleep while baby does. Help???!!!
P.S. Sorry for the lengthiness of this post!
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