Giving my sister the cold shoulder...

So, I've been unsupportive of my sister's newly discovered pregnancy. Partly because I know that she literally went psycho to get pregnant once she heard I was pregnant. She is what you might call an "attention whore" because she is immature and tries to center every conversation and social setting around herself. For example, once my mom said my new outfit looked really nice and my sister snapped, "well, what about me?! Do I not look nice today?"

She has never asked me throughout my whole pregnancy how I have been doing. She only now texts me to complain that at 7 wks she went to the ER and got "medical leave" from work because of a UTI. A freaking UTI!! And she came to me looking to feel sorry for her. She is overweight and her doctor told her that was a main reason she had problems conceiving. I work as an equivilent to an EMT in the military and am studying to hopefully be a surgeon and maybe become commissioned. So instead of giving her sympathy, I nicely tried to give her medical advice and personal advice on her pregnancy. I told her if she honestly felt she can't do her job with a UTI that this pregnancy is not going to be fun. I also told her to be careful of her weight because she is already at risk for pre-eclampsia and gestational diabetes. She was saying she's just too tired to keep working.... expecting me to baby her. She works for our dad. Basically chooses her own hours and she said her job is unsafe for the baby??? She sits at a desk and answers phones and takes orders. I used to work for our dad too. She packages some picture frames and shadow boxes but she has a chair and table to sit at while doing it. Any heavy items all the men in the warehouse can lift for her.

I guess I can't forgive her for what she has done in the past. When I miscarried at 19, she told me hrs after leaving the hospital to look at this event as a "sign, because the dad wasn't worth anything and I don't think being a mom is for you". I've always wanted to tell her how much that hurt me and how uneccesary thatcomment was. She basically kicked me while I was down. Absolutely at 19 I was not trying to get pregnant, but once it happened my mind and my life changed so much. That was something she just doesn't understand, I think even after having her own struggles with getting pregnant. I'm just jaded by our relationship at this point. She is disingenuous and doesn't take good advice even if it sits on her face. I don't think I can bare responding to her texts anymore. I guess it's hard to have sympathy when I'm wearing a heart monitor because of palpitations related to my pregnancy and I've had no choice but to work up until 5 days before my due date. We do what we have to do. I told her it's the new norm for women to work right up until they deliver. It's a new culture and the stay-at-home mom doesn't really exist in the middle class. Her husband just got his full work hours back after being cut. They had to move in with his aunt and uncle temporarily until my other sister's new home closed escrow. She has a huge heart and is letting them move in with herself and her two kids. My "selfish sister" borrows money from our other sister, as well. I just feel that it's selfish of her to be doing all of this. I have a hard time trusting her. My other sister (not the selfish one) told me a couple weeks ago that she has been getting money from the current owners of the house she is buying every month because they did not give the renters notice and they cannot find an affordable house to rent yet. The move in date was supposed to be 3 mos ago. For some reason this money has been going into my "selfish sister's" husband's savings account. I asked why?? She said that she doesn't have a savings and trusts them with the money and will.put it toward the mortgage once they all.move in. I feel like they are taking advantage of our sister. They had mentioned the house is 4 bedrooms and one room would be turned into a mancave for "selfish sister's" husband. This bothers me because I feel my niece and nephew need their own rooms in THEIR mom's house before my other sister and her husband get a bedroom and an extra room.

I can't stand the thought of all of this backfiring and being around in the thick of it when we go home so our family can meet our baby. I don't know what to do anymore. Because no one agrees with what I see. So, I keep quiet. I vent about it to my husband and hope for the best and I hope that people get what they deserve.