I really have baby fever but I don't think he wants a baby?

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I've been having baby fever like crazy lately!!!! I want nothing more than a baby. I think about it day and night. I feel like it's the right time for us since he will be deploying in the next two years. He won't miss the pregnancy, or birth of his child. However, I don't think my boyfriend has the same baby fever as I do and to be quite honest with you, I don't think he wants a baby right now at all! I'm currently on birth control, but I want to stop it but not without asking him. I don't really know how to come across to ask him, and I'm also afraid to ask and I don't know why. We're only 20 and 21, and we are getting married soon due to his deployment. I'm just not sure what I should do about it.

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You are very young, so it's easy to understand why he might not want kids. At the end of the day having kids is a MASSIVE decision and it's wrong to force someone into parenthood when it's not what they want or are ready for. Especially if the military is his first proper career, you can hardly blame him for wanting to do that first.
Think your best option is to have an adult conversation with him. Sit him down and ask him if he wants to have kids any time soon? If he says no then ask him why he doesn't want them now? Or if he'll want them later in life? Communication is the key and it's important to respect how HE feels about kids too and if he feels ready. 
If he never wants kids however (as some people don't) then you'll have to do some serious thinking.

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Well.... On a regular day we were sitting side by side watching tv, just chillin. I say "babe, I want to be a mommy" hE says "I know". I says "I don't want to be on birth control anymore" he says "okay" 
I got pregnant a year later. Had a miscarriage, and pregnant again right after.
My baby boy is one month tomorrow

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My husband before we got together looked me in the eyes and told me he didn't want kids. He just got over a really bad relationship with his ex wife and has two kids already. I told my husband how I felt about having another baby and he said if we make it to five years we can have a baby. We made it to 4.5 years and we found out on Father's Day that I was pregnant. We now have a five month old baby boy and he recently adopted my daughter from a previous relationship I was in. I'm complete, but still would like one more child in three years.

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Just ask him "what do you think about starting a family soon?" Or something like that.

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My husband never wanted kids. Before I even agreed to date him I told him that if he wanted to be with me he had to understand that I want kids. It was a hard conversation but we agreed that one is our magic number. Just sit him down with a list of pros. Can't argue with logic!

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Don't let a deployment dictate when you decide to get married and/or have children. Those are big, life changing events that you both need to be ready for and not just because a deployment is looming.

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I don't think you should rush into marriage like this if you can't even have a conversation about something as huge as children. You're incredibly young. Take a step back.

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If you're marrying him soon it should be something you can just ask him about. That's the only way you'll know where he's at with things. It will at least help you both get on the same page even if he isn't ready for a baby yet. And I agree with the other person who said don't let deployments dictate anything, especially something like having a baby. Because deployment schedules can and will change a million times.

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Just bring it up? Tell him you want a baby. Bring it up while eating dinner.

I really have baby fever but I don't think he wants a baby?

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