Mother-in-law Troubles

Troubles. Problems. Issues. We are not even married and I have had enough of this woman. She is two-faced: she will tell me that she loves me and is glad that I am in her son's life now, but if I say "no", she gets on Facebook and tells perfect strangers all kinds of crap about me. The sad part is... It's all made up! I work and go to school. That's my life. I don't get to go anywhere without her son in tow. Then she says "I love my son but I don't have to love the girlfriend."

Her being two-faced is why I miscarried my first child last summer. I have kept my head down and my mouth shut because I feel so bad about my own self.

Yesterday, she wanted to drop off her dachshund, who is in heat. Her fear is, her male black lab will attack the dachshund in an effort to get her pregnant. I normally wouldn't mind- I like the dachshund. But on Monday we got a kitten- who had been spayed, so she has stitches. My concern was that a dog in our home is not going to make our new pet feel safe. Any other time, sure why not- but not now.

So because I stood up for our new pet, his mother hates me and thinks I'm controlling her son. I don't regret the decision I made. I remember how I felt when I came to their house. They had several dogs who ran all over, tearing furniture up and jumping on stoves and counters and tables. I remember how scared I was. I remember also that because I didn't let their big dogs walk all over me, I was always scared she would hate me.

Because of her, my nerves were shot. I was actually pregnant and didn't know until about 1:30 am one summer night, when I was rushing to the bathroom gushing blood. It was too late- and it had all happened because of her. I was that desperate for my future mother in law to like me. She claims to be a good Christian but will talk shit about and steal from anyone.

I finally took it to heart that I have tried way too much to gain this woman's approval. The only thing she actually respects is materialism- if you don't have money or something she needs, she wants nothing to do with you. If you tell her "no" for any reason, you've just become the joke in her latest Facebook status.

Can anybody tell me... Does this woman not seen like she needs some serious help? If this is what I have to look forward to from a mother in law, I don't think I want to marry into that..........