Relationship and kids.

So my bf and I have been together for 9 months and years I totally fell for him. I told him that too. He hasn't said he loves me tho. Makes me wonder. He's my first bf since my last horrific relationship and I find myself relearning relationships lol. I know it sounds funny bit I was messed up bad with my last mentally. So I have introduced him to my kids and he stays with me on the weekends with my kids. Our schedules are opposite so we try to see eachother when we can. I'm allowing him to be apart of my life but I haven't met his kids yet and I've only met some of his family once. He says his son isn't ready and I understand cause of their situation. But I wanna know if I am wasting my time with him? How do I know if he really wants me apart of his life. I told him I am seriously wanting to be with him and he said the same for me. I know I can get a lil paranoid at times but I guess I need some enlightenment on this. He's a good man and treats me well and has stayed with me even when I was in a 3 month deep depression. Ugh... am I not being patient enough? I jus wanna do what's right. And I certainly don't wanna rush anything either.