How do I tell him?

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I'm 22 and i'll be 7 weeks pregnant tomorrow...I found out that I was pregnant Christmas eve. I've been against abortion (for myself) my whole life. I've always said that I wouldn't do it, but i've never been pregnant either. I don't want to put my body through that and I know that I am not strong enough emotionally to go through with it..i'll hate myself for the rest of my life. Well..the father of my baby really wants me to get an abortion. We're not in a relationship, just fwb..but we've been messing around for a while. He keeps telling me that we're too young (he's 21) and that HE'S not ready. 😒 A baby was not in my plans this soon, so of course i'm not exactly ready either but I made an adult decision and I realize that i'm going to have to grow up and take care of my responsibility. How do I tell the father that I WILL NOT go through with an abortion? Because he won't listen and keeps trying to pressure me. I don't know if he's ashamed of me or really not ready. I don't want him to resent me for my decision.. Any suggestions would be appreciated.. 😔

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It's YOUR body, YOUR choice. He cannot MAKE you do anything. Ditch his ass, block his number, if I were you I wouldn't have anything to do with him. It's harsh- but he DOES NOT OWN YOU.

If you want to keep that baby, it's YOUR choice. If you don't feel you can raise the baby, but are against abortion- put the baby up for adoption. You don't know how many couples out there who have tried and tried for years to conceive, and would give anything to adopt a newborn.

If you decide to keep the baby they are so many resources state by state that will help you as a single mom. There are options!!!

Be strong dear woman, you CAN DO THIS. 💕

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I'm the 19 and my boyfriend just turned 21. We just found out last week that I'm pregnant (unexpectedly) and from the beginning he's told me that the decision is ultimately mine whether to keep or do adoption. We're both very against abortion, so that was never an option. My point is that if he thinks he can tell you what to do, that's the first red flag. You shouldn't feel like you have to get an abortion because he wants you to. That's not right. An abortion is a big deal and nothing to be taken lightly. Simply tell him that you can't go through with it, and say that you'd like to have him there with you through this. If he doesn't want to, fine. That'll be really hard, but you will know that he wasn't right for you. Maybe look into adoption? I don't think I could do it, but maybe you're stronger than me. Good luck!

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Flat out tell him NO. if he doesn't respect it then he knows where the door is. There is nothing that says you need a man to do this.  I can say feom expierence my boyfriend didn't want our daughter when I was pregnant with my first.  He ended up moving across the country and pretty much disappearing . After I got over the heartbreak and panic I decided to bite the bullet , grow a backbone and raise my child by myself.  A few years after she was born I met the man of my dreams , fell in love, got married and am pregnant with our second baby together.  We have a wonderfully blended family and although I love being married and stable and in love , I'll always look back on the time my daughter and I had together with fondness . If this guy gives a shit he will support the decision you make . He should have thought about all this before he came inside of you.  Stay strong.  Remember he isn't a necessity!! Much love ♡♡♡

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I would just tell him I'm keeping our baby whether you like it or not. If he thinks he is too young for a baby then he is too young to be having unprotected sex. I think you are making the right decision and even if you have to do it on your own I promise it will all be worth it when you hold that baby in your arms.

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Don't do anything coz he want u too . Follow your Heart . It was might to be that way

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I went through a similar thing with my ex, but I was 18. My ex told me we're too young and still need to party 😑 I looked into the abortion and decided I could not do it. I told him and he tried saying he would try to be the best father he could be then. My son is now almost 8 and his biological dad has never seen him. I raised him on my own until he was 4.5 years old and that's when I met the man I'm married to now.

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Leave him. You can keep him up to date on things if he decides to be a part of them otherwise stay as stress free as possible, take care of you and your baby. This is your body and your baby and you can do this on your own. If you have a good support system in your friends and family they'll help you through things.

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You stand your ground and tell him outright the answer is no your not aborting, its your body your decision and he needs to respect it. Tell him it doesnt matter how much he bangs on about aborting you will not be going through with it. He will have to accept and grow up. He can either accept and be a part of the baby's life or he can take a walk. Dont let him change your mind !

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Where there's a will, there's a way. If you're against an abortion tell him so and stand your ground! He will either come around or you can completely do this without him!!! Do not let someone else pressure you into an abortion, I feel that would scar you even more emotionally than if you were to do it on your own will, and even then it will be one of the hardest things to go through. You got this! Good luck ❤

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I would just tell him straight up, I am keeping this baby if you like it or not, it's my body not yours, and if he doesn't like it he can leave you will always have your baby

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