Rant about parents accepting their kids.

If you have a child, you CHOSE to have that child. That child did not choose you. They didn't ask to be improperly raised or abused or insulted. They didn't ask to be demeaned and labeled and scolded for being who they are. YOU chose that life for them; YOU gave them that life.

Parents label their kids so much. You label them as a gender and as straight before they're even out of your womb. You assign them with colors and opinions and skills and tasks that they haven't even learned yet. You tell them that they can't play football if they're a girl but that they can be the greatest cook there ever was when they haven't even turned five. You tell boys that they can't wear pink and that they have to play sports if they ever want a scholarship, because you act as though they can't pursue good academic grades.

YOU, as a parent, are limiting your child. The child that you wanted to have.

Your child doesn't choose to be straight or like pink or be a good cook. You choose that for them and that isn't okay.

I am so tired of parents labeling their kids. They are not your property. You don't own them. You gave them their life under the condition that they get to live it how they choose. You have no other choice because it isn't your choice.

The greatest part about being a parent is that you should be proud of your child for being brave and courageous enough to be who they are regardless of what anyone else tells them. You should be honored to say that you supported them through it all. Through all of the aspirations, ambitions, career goals, academic goals, sports teams and book clubs, phases and relationships. YOU should be the one who can look at your child when they grow up and have a child of their own and know that your baby was raised right.

What you shouldn't do is be the parent who told their son that he couldn't be a chef because cooking is a woman's job. You shouldn't be the parent who kicks their kid out of the house because they're not a Christian like you or because they're gay. You SHOULD be able to accept love them and love them no matter who they become, because YOU swore to do that the moment that you gave birth to them. Hell, the moment you conceived them.

You don't deserve to call yourself a parent if you kicked your daughter out of the house because she got had a baby out of wedlock at 19. You don't deserve to call yourself a parent if you kicked your son out for being gay. 

You don't deserve to call yourself a parent if you look YOUR CHILD in their eyes, the eyes that are full of passion and fear, and tell them that they can't be who they are.

I don't give a shit if this offends you. If it offends you, it's because it's about YOU. So I feel bad for your child, not you.