(grand)Parents during/after birth?

Question

First baby, not sure how people usually navigate this. We live in the Midwest and my family is on the west coast, hubby's family is on the coast. We're alone out here, but I know parents often come out for the birth of their grandchildren... 
But to do this in a non-stressful, more helpful way... Do they both come out at once? Take turns so you have help for a longer time? But then doesn't one feel bad about not being there in the beginning? 
My in-laws are awesome. They will be a GREAT help. Self-sufficient in every way and great with babies. They're so excited that I think this wait is just as bad for them as it is for me! 
My mom is great, but will be less helpful. She herself is not as mobile or self-sufficient due to her age, but she surely wouldn't admit that. Let's just say she doesn't move very quickly, but her love is there. She'll be hurt if she isn't included, even though we'll have to finance her trip. 
How do people do this on a way that minimizes stress and maximize love and support?

Answer

Maybe ask your mom to come for a few days before baby is due and help you with any last minute things and then be there for the birth and while you are in the hospital. Then ask your in-laws to come once you are home because you will need/want the help. 
A lot of women want no one in their home after baby. I think it depends on your personality. My mom will come when we go home with baby to help. And then my in laws (who completely overwhelm me) will come for a few days when she leaves. My mom is also going to come back when I go back to work to stay home with the baby so I can put off daycare for as long as possible.

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We lived in Seattle when my first was was born & all our family was on the east coast. My mom was already retired, so she came out for 3 weeks. She was trying to come out for the birth, but I delivered at 38 weeks so she ended up arriving the day we left the hospital. She was a big help with laundry, dishes, & encouragement while I was learning to breastfeed. My inlaws flew out for a week after she left since they both still worked at the time. They just wanted to hold the baby, so it was great that my mom came out first. I'd say to plan their visits around what type of help you need & know that you can't please everybody, but you appreciate their help & want them all to be there - just not at the same time. Good luck!

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Our families are taking turns, honestly we just talked to them about what we'd like to do and they were fine with it. They'll both be here for the birth and then my family will stay about a week and then his family will come back for about a week after them. No one was upset about not being "first" since they'll all be here when she's born. Also thankfully they are mature and kind enough not to want to add unnecessary stress to our lives. I would say just figure out what would be best for you and your significant other and then talk to your parents about it.

(grand)Parents during/after birth?

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