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An emotional wreck who can never tell her parents anything. All new moms out there do not do this to your child.

The Little Mermaid • Sun, Jan 15

Some of you probably have seen my past posts before. But I'm still just stuck between telling them things or just live my life and don't tell them anything. I cannot tell them anything because they get mad and create a scene over the smallest things. For example, once in high school I was hanging out with boys after school in front of the school and she went crazy as that she almost poured boiling pasta water over me. My dad gave a huge lecture too about it. It was even worse because they were boys of different ethnicity and my parents are extremely racist. Fast forward, I'm 23 now engaged with a Guatemalan man who I've been with for 6 years. My parents saw him maybe 5 times in the 6 years we've been together. They've let me go on vacations with his family but it was a huge deal and they were paranoid that I'd sleep with him at 20 so I always tell them we sleep in different rooms. I've tried inviting him to family dinners and holiday get togethers and my parents have always said no because they'd get embarrassed. My dad always made the excuse "you're not married to him so why should he come to our family events." But wait... It gets even better. My fiancé has sent my parents and my sister a Christmas gift every year but they still rejected him a little after the holidays. This past Thanksgiving 2016, my mom said I should invite my boyfriend over so I told my boyfriend and he got super excited. Getting out of work, he stopped at Starbucks to get our family of 4 lattes and baked treats as a "thank you for the thanksgiving invite." That broke my heart into pieces because he didn't have to do that.

Sometimes when my dad and I speak about my relationship, dad said to never marry him because "he's not for us." Whatever that means? So I said fine which he's assuming that I'd comply but I continued dating him but sneaking around. I got proposed on New Years eve and I'm hiding my ring when around them. My sister, 19 knows about it she thinks it's ridiculous on my part for not sharing the news with them. I have my reasons and I'd rather save the drama. Also, my fiancé and I plan on moving in together this year either in the spring or summer and we're going to elope. I cannot tell them I'm moving out with him because they'd look for ways to make my life miserable or they'll try to manipulate me and my relationship with him. Also, my dad yells like a barking dog and my mom puts on an angry dance, grinds her teeth, and creates a poem/rap on repeat. It's a way they throw tantrums.

So I'm stuck between telling them about the engagement and moving out while I put up with their tantrums.

Or I keep my engagement a secret and move out without saying a word (maybe the day before or day of moving)

Yes, l will feel bad and guilty either way because they're going to be upset either way. But at the same time I do NOT want hear it. I just need to do it in peace. They have reached my limit with this and I'm TIRED of it all. I'm ready to FLY FLY FLY like a bird and be FREE and HAPPY at last. I would never want my child to go through emotional stress I've been through. There's a big difference between disciplining and scaring your kids.

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