Is it possible to be depressed (but only about relationship with husband) 6 months postpartum?

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Hi Ladies!
Sorry to bother you.
I'm just realizing I haven't been myself since giving birth and am finally admitting it.
I love my baby so much and still feel optimist and happy in most ways but I have completely fallen out of love with my husband. It's to the point where I don't even listen when he speaks and feel so uncomfortable when he tries to touch me. He's a great dad and is good to me I just have zero feelings towards him after giving birth (well technically it probably started a few months before). People keep telling me to give it time and that it's probably just hormones but it's been over 6 months now and nothing has changed. Not to mention we've only been married 1.5 years and together 3 total so it just feels too soon to be feeling this way. I just feel horribly guilty in regards to how this will affect our daughter. Has anyone been through anything similar/ have any advice? Thanks so much in advance I just don't know where else to turn (other than a therapist)

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I'm the same way!!! 
I thought it was just me and I thought that I was just being a jerk.
When my bf comes home I just want to stay a tad bit away. He could just say something small and I would feel annoyed. 
Mostly cause he would ask for sexual favors and when he does I get overwhelmed and frustrated cause I have to take care of baby all day and then when my bf comes home he expects me to take care of him in a pleasure way. 
in the back of my mind whenever he talks to me I detach myself and whenever he talks I sort of make like he's not there

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If this was a major shift you had after you gave birth then absolutely, I think the emotional detachment could be related to PPD. Especially if it was abrupt/unexpected. I know that the whole "ew get the fuck away from me" when they want to touch you deal is pretty common for a while postpartum. If you're feeling more indifferent than anything and can't seem to conjure a fuck about anything he says that could also be a sign of depression. Sometimes depression isn't all about sobbing in hopeless despair; sometimes it can be a vague numbness, apathy or feeling constantly annoyed for no real reason.

Also.. men tend to make it VERY known they want to have sex at the first opportunity possible and not a single second later. That expectation can feel really aggressive and cause resentment. Maybe you can't relate to that at all, I just know it's not unusual to feel that kind of pressure from a partner.

I hope you will talk to someone who can counsel you through your feelings. Please take care💕 and congrats on new baby!

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I feel very similar. Like I'm forcing myself to have feelings that are not there. And also I'm like grossed out when he touches me. I hate kissing him and sex is only good because I'm in the mood not because it's with him. I'm 3 months PP. Never even considered that it may be a form of PPD. I had some pretty severe baby blues for the first month.

We are also separated because i left him because he was on drugs and had some serious anger issues because of the pills he was abusing. He's sober now but I'm still at my moms because we also needed our only bathroom remodeled and it's not finished yet...

I'd be curious to hear what a doctor tells you if you talk to one.

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I think it would be pretty normal to have those feelings. You grew this baby and went through labour and everything else after! Meanwhile all he done is a couple of thrusts at the beginning lol.
Is it possible for you to go on a date night just you two? No talk of the baby or work just try to reconnect and remember why you fell in love with him in the first place.
I personally wouldn't class it as ppd but I'm not a doctor.
Hope everything works out for you!

Is it possible to be depressed (but only about relationship with husband) 6 months postpartum?

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