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I'm just done

Be • Thu, Mar 09

I don't know what to do anymore. I've started to just hate my fiancé, if you can even call him that anymore.

We fight constantly, literally everything he says and does annoys the crap out of me. He stopped helping around the house, avoids me, ignores me, always hangs out with other people (both men and women) and leaves me home with our 2 month old. I finally pushed him about it and he said it's hard to help someone you don't like. He said he doesn't care about me, love me or like me anymore. He then took it back later when he wasn't angry anymore, though. I've said stuff that badly too, so it's not just him in that.

But really, he ACTS like he doesn't love me anymore. He never helps me, I cook dinner and he won't eat it, just goes off and plays video games (I'm a fairly good cook, and even go out and find the things he likes and he still won't), he doesn't like to hang out with me hardly ever, especially not talk to me. We've had maybe 2 conversations in the past couple weeks. He doesn't do nice things for me ever. For example, he used to bring me my favorite drink after work once or twice a week, but hasn't done anything like that in months. And I do it all the time for him!

I just feel so rejected and unloved and unappreciated. I work 30 hours a week, am in college, do all the cooking and cleaning and take care of our son. I will sometimes get a thank you IF I make him a meal, make the plate and bring it to him on the couch. Otherwise... nothing.

I just want to feel loved again, to have him say something nice to me, come give me a hug for once or god forbid do something nice for me like light a candle and make a bath or something like that. I'd literally cry!

I have PP depression and am on meds, and we're going to counseling soon, but I just don't see it ever getting better. I have no hope in life or in our relationship and at this point I don't even like being a parent.

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