My brother-in-law is a piece of shit!! 👿👿💩💩

Background:

When I was 11 years old, I was sexually abused. I don't know HOW my BIL knows about it, but he does.

My so and I are currently staying with my MIL while we find an apartment. We just moved 700+ miles across the country. My BIL lives here too, but only because he's a lazy pos.

BIL refuses to work, doesn't clean up after himself, talks to everyone like they're stupid, and constantly makes rape jokes to me. For example, the other day he was watching Family Guy and there was some dumb joke about rape. That usually doesn't bother me, but BIL kept rewinding the show so that the joke would play over and over, all while giving me this *look* like we had some kind of inside joke.

He also likes to boss me around. I work inside the home, taking care of SO's grandmother who had Alzheimer's and dementia. I have been a home health nurse for a long time now, and I know what I'm doing. A few days ago, I was making grandma a tuna sandwich and BIL flipped out! Because I was "spreading it wrong". He does shit like that all the time! I sweep wrong, I load the dishwasher wrong, I hang MY clothes wrong, I wash windows wrong, I make food wrong, I give grandma her medicine wrong...Everything I do, I get yelled at for doing it "wrong"!!!

Ugh I'm annoyed.

Then he had the AUDACITY to ask if he can move in with us when we get an apartment! He doesn't have money, so he says he'll "pay us what he can." THATS NOT HOW THE REAL WORLD WORKS!!!

I've talked to my SO about this, and my MIL and they've both tried to talk to BIL but its useless because he doesn't listen; just blames everything on me. Without strangling him, what the hell am I supposed to do at this point?! I'm so beyond my limit with this kid.

Ps. He is 22 years old.