isn't it too soon?

I'm having serious chest issues. Pre-pregnancy I was a 38DD which was honestly painful enough... however at 12 weeks my breast were at 40DDD with only an 8lb weight gain. Now at 14 weeks they're shaped oddly, always blazing hot, and weird colors at times (blue-ish purple). This is my first pregnancy that has ever survived passed 11 weeks, although I keep being told that with it being technically "my third" pregnancy that it's normal for my body to adapt more quickly. I'd love to believe that, I truly would but I'm confused because I won't be seeing any sign of milk for months! So why must my boobs be in such a rush to torture me?! I can almost never comfortably wear a bra anymore and sometimes the weight of my breasts makes it hard to stand over dishes or bend in the shower to shave my effin legs. I'm frustrated, sorry 😔