Long story short, since the pregnancy and birth sex has been difficult. He has a low sex drive and now I have a high sex drive. We finally got it to once a week or every other. Well sometimes I ask for sex and he says tomorrow night when I'm off work or on my off day, or in the morning when we wake up or when the baby goes to sleep. And it never happens...... so I started pleasing myself since I'm tired and it frustrates me to not have a sex life. He knows I do this because I'm extremely frank with him and also I want to get my point across when he promises me something and then doesn't follow through it does upset me. Well the past month my BC got messed up and honestly we've been avoiding each other so we don't have another unplanned pregnancy. Well now everything is back on track with me and I've been staying up late to see him (he goes to work at 3pm-11pm and I work from 8:30am-5pm) so I've been waiting up until 11:30 to see him and every night I try to get things going and he kept turning me down. So I finally asked why and he says he has jock itch and I was like ohhhh okay definitely don't wanna get near that!!!! So I leave him alone for a while about it. Well a week went by and now I asked if it was going to happen soon or do I need to handle things myself. Of course he says oh it'll be one of my off days (Wednesday and Thursday)..... Of course I don't really believe him. Do I wait and see or do I just go ahead and do things myself so I can "get rid of the urge" if I go ahead and do things myself I'm not going to be in the mood to do it with him tomorrow if he does actually decide to have sex. Also I won't be "pleased" tomorrow night if I go ahead and please myself tonight..... I mean it's been almost two months and well sometimes you just need it. I don't know what to do 😑😔 my sex life is a mess and awful.