when he's great for you but not your bed

Question

I'm thinking of cheating on my bf strickly for pleasure...... don't want to though. Just tired of him getting pleased and going to sleep Happy, meanwhile I am frustrated because I'm never pleased. The worst part is he's a good guy and I don't want to hurt him...what do I do especially if I have tried teaching him..... nothing works...help

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So in this case, instead of trying to teach him, you will have to be very direct with him and let him know what the problem is. You have to talk to him and tell him that you want to be pleased in bed, that you've been feeling neglected in that department. Sex is not just for him and you need him to put in the effort it takes so you can orgasm too. If he doesn't understand after that, or if you have already had that conversation, then break up with him FFS! Don't cheat on him. That will hurt a lot more. Do the respectful, honorable thing and realize that this is not the person for you. Break up first.

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I occasionally have this same issue with my man. It sucks feeling used not that those are his intentions but that's how we're left feeling. Sex should be a mutual pleasure. I've spoken with my man about this and. To be honest yes it does make him feel bad. But it's not ok for you to keep this to yourself especially if you want a future with him. Tell him how you feel, and even give him pointers of what you like. Take control and tell him to fuck you every night until he can work his way up to twice a night. Dontforget about fpreplay, tell him to make it all about you. Give him a real reason to fall asleep right after.

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You need to have a calm sit down talk outside of your bed. Sit down and explain that you love him but unless you see more effort in love making, this relationship is doomed. Which is true because you're already considering stepping out on him.

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Oh my god I'm literally going through the same thing w my boyfriend rn 😩

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Try new things in bedroom like things u havent tried and every step of way tell him what hes doing right and wrong

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Talk to him?  Like have a real serious conversation telling him that this is a big issue for you.

when he's great for you but not your bed

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