Divorce coming soon ?
I'm posting this here for advice because it's obviously not something I can write anywhere else. So my husband and I have been together for almost two years. He was stationed in my hometown for the military and has lived in another state all his life. We used to be best friends. He was and still is someone I love very much. After our first year together he proposed to me and I was overjoyed.. I made a FB video with all of our memories, our song, and a caption detailing how excited I was to be marrying spending the rest of my life with him. I tagged him in the post which allowed his family and friends to comment on it. My family and friends were pouring out nothing but love and congratulations. His family, however, did the complete opposite. The comments they were adding would make you think he passed away. His mom, his aunts, and his sister were the worst. It was so bad that I had to untag him in the post so no one else could comment and I deleted their comments raining on my happiness. I told him how I felt and he was okay with me deleting the comments and I tagging him. He was leaving for training about a month after we got engaged and he told me he wanted to be married before he left, so we eloped. My family and friends were excited and he told me his parents said congratulations and they were excited too. Fast forward to the day after Valentine's Day (which was a complete disaster) his mom gets my number from him and called me at work. She goes on to ask me if we got married and tells me she can't believe he didn't tell his family and how she's so disappointed and his sister is oissed. Blah blah blah. My heart shattered. Why didn't he tell them ? That caused a big fight between us as we've always had a good relationship and it made me feel worthless. He goes on to say he didn't want them to talk him out of it but he lied his way into a marriage with me. I didn't want to get married until everyone was on board. Or atleast knew. After we were married, he changed. And we found out we were pregnant, with a baby we both wanted and tried for for. Now that we've been married for about 9 months doesn't express himself, he doesn't care when I get emotional, he doesn't care to hear about anything going on with me. I will literally talk to him and he won't say a single word. It's starting to feel disrespectful. His mom came to visit in July and she was so standoffish and rude. She was relaying nasty comments from his sister and was even disgusted when I gave her a hug. So many things changed and I wish I could've seen this before we got married I would've never married him. Regardless to how much I love him. Now I'm 7 months pregnant and he's planning to leave the military in June. We've been planning around this as far as buying a house, prepping for baby, and my schooling (Masters Program). Yesterday when we were out, he told me his mom wants him to move back to Texas when he is out of the military. I don't wanna go. He's already not the nicest anymore. And his family has been a disaster in regards to our relationship, yet he thinks I'd feel comfortable to leave the only people who care about me to go and be mentally and emotionally abused by him and his family... my mom is gonna be our babysitter since he won't let me stay home and raise our baby. When we were planning for baby that was the plan, I wasn't gonna have to miss anything. Now I will. But now he wants to go back to his home state and I'd have to put my baby in a daycare center 😭😭😭 I've been on the losing end our whole marriage so far but I push through and try to put my best foot forward hoping things will get better with time. He's even annoyed with me if I'm sick and need his assistance (going to the store, picking something up. Mostly during my peaks of morning sickness and what not)... I don't wanna move. I think this will end in divorce, I can't budge on this. It's a disaster waiting to happen. He told me he didn't wanna move back home before we got married and after he trapped me EVERYTHING changed, especially him. I'm so sad guys. Pleas give advice.
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