To young but why?

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I recently just found out that I have can't have kids. Most of my friends say that it's for the better cause I'm 20 but I love kids &I want some of my own but I can't have them :(

I've learned to deal with the fact that I can probably have one but it will probably take forever.

Today at work this girl went in for a pg test & it was positive but she actually told me straight up she wanted an abortion. Really??! I wanted to slap her then & there! Her mom was even encouraging her! I was so mad that when she left I went to the break room & started crying. I wasn't crying cause I was mad but I was crying cause someone is willing to end a life when it's a blessing. It just got me all depressed cause I can't have a baby but someone who can is willing to end it 😢

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Your fertility is not affected by someone else's. You can't expect people to walk on glass because of what is going on in your life. 
I feel bad for you, but projecting won't solve anything. 
That kind of stress, that negativity, will not help you create the life you strive to make. Perhaps seek councilling to help you release that?

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I'm sorry you are struggling with infertility and I'm glad you are venting to get things off your chest. That being said, her pregnancy and termination have absolutely nothing to do with your infertility. I don't think you should dwell on it. The negativity definitely won't help you conceive and it doesn't feel good to have it consume you.

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I'm really sorry you are struggling. That is a really scary thing to learn at such a young age, and I really do hope that you are able to have children someday. It has to be hard watching someone else get pregnant, especially when a baby isn't something they want, but remember that she isn't making this choice to purposely hurt you personally, but because she feels that it is best for her, and it is her decision to make. Your feelings are valid, though. If you need to vent, there are some really great organizations that can help you. yourbackline.org has a great care line staffed with licensed counselors. It's free and confidential.

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I am struggling with fertility issues for 2+ years and might possiblly not concieve. Let me tell your post is leaving a bad taste in my mouth. How can you get upset over somone else's pregnancy or abortion? It is your body, you suck it up and deal with your issues. Stop playing the victim card with infertility.

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My god, Everyone saying oh she can't   be sad & upset by someone else's fertility or decision to abort...... You know, people usually can't just erase their feelings & pretend like they are not even there. If I was in her position I would be upset & hurt if my friend straight told me she's getting an abortion. I couldn't really be mad if she's pregnant but I would be sad that it wasn't me. This girl is human. The feels are going to hit her no matter what.

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Don't allow yourself to be hurt by your friend's decision. As a general rule, don't allow yourself to be hurt or overcome by something you cannot change.
Have hope in the possibility of adoption. It's so hard to learn that you're infertile at such a young age, but use this new knowledge as a blessing and go ahead and begin saving up for adoption, so you will be able to adopt when you're ready.
This is not the end of your dream for motherhood- you can absolutely still be a mother even if you don't carry a child in your womb.

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I was told I'd never have kids and I am on my #2 as we speak

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I was told all my life I couldn't have kids and I am now 30 weeks pregnant with a little girl :)

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I know how you feel my husband and I have been trying for our first baby for close to two years and it breaks my heart how some people can be blessed and become pregnant and abort or do things that will harm the baby it's like seriously have the baby you are so blessed

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Your fertility is completely unrelated to someone elses

To young but why?

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