Dating

I’ve been seeing this guy on and off for the past four years. He’s my ex and I broke his heart four years ago and regretted it. Then he broke mine this past August saying he didn’t want a relationship. I still want him in my life but I’m not sure I can handle the on and off. I like consistency..and so I don’t know what to do. I want to enjoy this Christmas and have less drama. So I feel I want to ignore him over the holidays as I know he doesn’t want a relationship (or so he says). He’s also been known to ignore me in the past during the holidays. Then out of the blue..which mostly will be in the new year he will be in touch again. Please tell me what to do so I can spare the drama this season!