Let's spice things up!

Okay ladies. There are times when my hubby and I are having sex and I don't have an orgasm. Of course he does but when I don't he does nothing to help get me there! Ive tried lingerie, candles, handcuffs massage oils to keep the mood hot so we both cross the finish line. But to no avail. I'm not saying I've never had an orgasm because I have it's just sometime I don't and he kinda leaves me hanging.

I've talked to hubby about introducing toys or vibrators to help out and he is dead set against it. I've even showed him a few that aren't shaped like penis' and could be fun for both of us but alas he says no.

So how do I get him to understand I'm not trying to replace him, I'm just trying to spice things up?????