Father brings me down

So after yet another situation that's made me feel bad, annoyed and helpless I decided to rant here, on Glow. For a while I've been having a stuffy nose and some headaches but kept on going to school (I'm almost 17) because I had no fever and had tests I didn't want to miss. But today was different - all that was at school were some lectures on law and no actual classes so my mom had let me stay home. My classmate's just offered me his invitation for a big gala that's being held tomorrow. When my father heard about it he said "There's no way. Tell your friend you're sick and will be able to come to school on monday, but you can't go out until then". It is the film event which I've been excited about but didn't get the invitation. My friends got them and now that I have a chance I can't go! I really care about this event because I'm passionate about cinema. My state isn't more serious than it's been before - It's been even worse about a month earlier when I had to go to school. Even when my mom offered to drive me there and back my dad wouldn't let me. 

This and different situations where he tries to show me how he's superior, how dependent and what a child I am make me feel bad about myself and my capability to make decisions. I feel my self esteem is lower than it's been before all the stuff happened. Also each of these has happened on the weekends while he was drunk. I feel like my opinions don't matter and I find it hard to believe anyone could genuinely care about me. 

To be clear, no one's ever insulted me directly in my house but the words limiting my autonomy I often hear from him make me break down in tears, I feel more and more emotionally instable and any random (Not constructive) critique or yelling (No matter at whom) from him gets to me. 

And what's the worst he keeps on saying I'm such a big girl and I should act like an adult even more often. How can I act adult when all he tries to do is make me feel I'm not? I feel so bad and can't really trust him to help me with any other problems because I'm just too scared of his reactions and words. 

It would be great if someone could help me figure out why he's acting like that, maybe that's what parents are supposed to do? Make their teenage kids blindly obey them and take whatever the parents throw at them to relieve their inner stress.

EDIT: I feel misunderstood in the comment section. I didn't skip school because of being ill, just because there were no classes that day. My father 'diagnosed' my illness later that day even though I kept on saying I'm feeling alright. Even if I wasn't, it was on friday, the event on saturday evening. Also my problem is that he just orders me around because he wants to show he's got the power over me (also mentions the money he earns for my living), not that he didn't let me go out this one time.