Sister issues: advice? -Long-

Let me start off by saying I love my sister very much.

But holy cow does she know how to poke my buttons!

Background: She has 3 kids (9, 1.5, and 6 mo) and I have an 8 month old boy. We were pregnant at the same time and it was super cool!

About 2 months ago, my mom and sister were taking photos of the two babies in a pack and play on the bassinet level while I was at work (I pay my mom to watch my son while I work part-time and my sister hangs out at her house during the day for help with her kids.) The weight limit on this one is 15lbs. So having both babies on there was more than doubling the weight limit (I know it was probably okay, but there are those limits for a reason!)

The pictures were super cute but I told my mom (my sister wasn’t there) that I didn’t think it was a good idea to push the weight limit and she agreed.

The next morning I get a message from my sister saying, “Mom said you don’t want our kids playing together” 🧐 I explained the situation and she didn’t respond. She gets mad easily so I brushed it off. I took my pack and play over to my parents to alleviate the situation in the future.

That weekend we were having a get together for my brother who was going off to school for the Navy. I walked into the kitchen and she had both her 1.5 yr old and 6 month old in my pack and play on the bassinet level, easily exceeding the weight limit 3 times. I kind of panicked and said what are you doing? That is so unsafe!

She retaliated with, “they are my kids and I can do what I want.”

Me: “Okay, well that’s my bassinet and you could ruin it!”

At this point I pulled myself back and knew she provoked me. I was so upset and told my brother goodbye and left.

It’s been a little over 2 months and she won’t talk to me. I’ve tried to send her messages here and there and even took her medication and Gatorade last week because her whole family was sick (she did say thank you but that’s it) and nothing.

She is starting to take her kids over to my moms again while I’m at work and it’s starting to make me uncomfortable to have her around my son.

I want a relationship with her but I don’t want her around my kid unless she will talk to me. Do I sound unreasonable?

I know there are two sides to every story and this is my point of view.

Advice and constructive criticism is welcome 🙏🏼

Side note: we’ve never been close but we keep trying. We are very different personalities, 2 years apart to the day!