HOW TO DEAL WITH THEM?

How to deal with my family? I am 16 and I have three more siblings of ages 13,8 and 5(the little only son of the family). My parents attitude towards my three other siblings is so different to their attitude towards me, as if I made a horrible mistake once in my life and they can never forgive it. I am an absolutely quiet, honest and very logic person in every situation. I rarely cause harm to anyone, I am actually the type of person that feels sorry easily for someone and always want to help. The problem is that they thing that I do this in an evil or wicked way, which is never the case!!! Anyway, lately they show how much they love my siblings compared to me even more (especially my father). I feel like they are bullying me. I can give you multiple examples and you can read as many as you want:

1. I started a very serious conversation, by informing them that I am interested in applying in Oxbridge (UK) for university in the near future and they cut the conversation right where it started as they don’t believe that I can make it, which made me really sad and unmotivated. Especially contrasting this with the compliments of them to my sister for her braveness of participating in the debate club and having an awesome speech (we have absolutely different tastes of subjects with my sister as I want to study medicine and she wants law) made me really sad as they were like telling me that I am as not brave. I have actually had many successes in the past which non of them they remember. I have got a certificate in my first aid club (which in fact i find more serious than a silly speech) and I won it with the highest mark in my school of 98%. I additionally had many more different awards in school and outside school which they don’t take into consideration as much.

2. My two sisters earn pocket money every week (the 13 year old €20 every Monday and the 8 year old €2-3 every day) and I’m standing there asking myself if I belong into this family. Not that money matters to me but yesterday they gave my sister €50 for nothing, and the fact that I am older, more polite as I never ask for it, and need it more than her (as I am older) is making me very sad and jealous (yes jealous!) for idiotic reasons. And then they make fun of me that I haven’t managed to save money in 2017 (sorry that you never gave me! I would never ask for money, I’m too shy to make such a move plus I don’t know when they have some available for me)

3. They always compare me to my siblings (mostly my father, my mother rarely to never). He says that my sisters will become taller than me (as If I care) trying to make me jealous. Also that their body type is very beautiful compared to mine (emphasizing that my hips are getting big over time-as if I am not in my teenager years causing my body to change), just if you are wondering I am a slender to normal looking person and at a height of 160cm and I have no complex with my body, but when It comes to this situation I become insecure all over again. Lastly, I know that this will sound sexist, but he has mentioned that my sisters breasts will be bigger compared to mine (something very uncomfortable to hear) and also that my sisters have a nice Brazilian as he says butt and that I am butt-less. Just to inform you, my sisters are as slender as I am.

4. When I ask them to arrange a meeting for me (eg. At a hair saloon, waxing, dermatologist, dentist etc.) they never do or when they do the do it too late, at the point I don’t need it, and I always have to ask them. Yesterday I told them that I need to go to the hair saloon as it has been a lot of time to go and my hair needs some cutting. My father said ‘No you don’t need to go to the hair salon. I must bring my (sister’s name).’ And he talked to me like that without feeling sorry. They always arrange for my siblings without them asking, but when I ask, I must ask for it for 1000 more times to happen.

There are many more other little things that I cant think of right now.

PLEASE NOTE THAT MY REACTION IS NOT CHILDISH AND I AM A MATURE PERSON, PLEASE DONT COMMENT AGAINST ME.

I need advice and some support please. I am really desperate wishing to get out of here as soon as possible.