*Sensitive Subject*

This is a hard topic to talk about. But Ive been thinking about this for a while and need to know if Im crazy or not.

So I have an 8 year old nephew. Lets call him John. Hes an only child and never been around kids or babies younger than him. So when I was pregnant with my now 7 month old son (Ben), he was worried about how to act and treat Ben when he's born.

Since Ben was 6 weeks old, when I brought him outside of the house and to meet family, John has been scared to be near him. Thats understandable. But now due to circumstances, John, my sister, and my mom live with me and Ben.

Heres where I have some suspicion, my family has some feelings that John may be gay, or at least very feminine. No worries, we still love him of course. But when I change Ben's diaper, he wants to be around to see. At first, it was okay because he didnt know how to change a diaper. Then he would hear the tabs of the diaper get undone and he would run to where ever we were to watch. Then he would run to us with a big smile. uhhh... go in the other room. why do you have to watch him get changed? He says he wants to see because hes a boy.

Every time I give him a bath, there he is. He wants to watch him get a bath. So I cut that stuff out. Whenever we get a diaper change I stop until he leaves the room. Bath time happens only when he goes to bed.

But one day it was just John, Ben and I in the house. Ben had tummy time and John was playing next to him. I went to do dishes, and peaking into the living room every few seconds to see if they were ok. (Ben is crawling now so I peak out every time I finish cleaning a dish). Anyway, I peak over and Ben is on his back. John is on all fours over top of him. So I sit back and watch. While Im watching, John is petting Ben's hair and then kisses him on the lips.

I didnt do anything, I wanted to watch to see exactly what he wanted to do. That was it though. I dont ever leave them by themselves even if Im just in the next room. Talking to my family about it wont go as planned because they will think Im just that overly protective mom.

Does anyone else see this as something I should be concerned about? I will be damned if my kid is one of those statistics of rape or molestation. I was molested at a young age and this immediately reminds me of that.

would you be concerned? am I over reacting?

edit! sorry i made a typo. the 8 year old is my nephew, my only child is 7 months old.