Making bf happy

My bf and I have been arguing so so much lately. It’s making us both unhappy and we’ve talked about breaking up because we feel like it’s just going in the wrong direction. I know that mostly it’s my fault because I don’t know how to control myself when I get angry, I just start yelling and saying really mean things because the slightest thing triggers me. And when the anger passes I feel awful. I want to get better with my anger issues but i also want to make it up to my bf. I don’t want to end things with him and I don’t think he does either, it’s just the arguing that’s killing us. What are some things I can give him or do for him besides learning how to calm my anger so this won’t continue. Just some quick things to make him take his mind off of this arguing mess. I know gifts and stuff don’t fix everything but just anything to kinda mend things. I’m 20 and he’s 19.