Adult Adoptee Navigating Pregnancy

Hey everyone,

I was adopted as a child and love my adoptive parents. I call them Mom and Dad because they are and have been there for me. My mom was never able to have a child of her own. Now she is over the moon that she will soon be a grandmother.

My issue is that she is starting to push her opinions on me and getting mad when I don’t accept her viewpoint. I get this happens with most mother/daughters. However, being adopted makes it harder to set boundaries without guilt. She never got to experience all the milestones of pregnancy including picking a name for baby.

At this point it appears that she wants to basically treat my child as her surrogate baby she never had. (I was adopted older and not as a baby.)

Is there anyone else dealing with a similar issue? There is no real point in asking for advice. Boundaries boundaries boundaries and not allowing other people’s emotions to influence my choices. Just knowing others are dealing with this, or other related issues would be nice.