**UPDATE**Fucken LIAR!!!!

Im going to make a long story short... OR at least try to.

I had a whirlwind romance with my husband & during the short period of time that I was around his family I saw just how verbally abusive, twisted, & disfunctional they were. Mainly just the grandmother & mother though. Well one night one of his sisters confided in me of sexual abuse their mother had done to her & their younger sister. The mother fingered then from the age of 13 weekly claiming that’s how she would know they weren’t virgins anymore. So in other words “checking” to make sure they were still intact.

We were in the process of looking for a place for us to live together & I as I saw all these things, the disfunction & verbal abuse I told him I doubted we’d ever really visit. I felt something more was so off about it all. Well after we moved out, my husband told me about the abuse that happened to him as a child at the hands of one of his mothers BF’s then in his teens how his mother came onto him several times. FUCKEN SICK!!! He had made it this whole time by shutting it out & just trying to survive. Well I told him we could NEVER go back & ESPECIALLY NOT his son who was just 3 1/2!!! Plus I wasn’t about to expose my own son to all of that & his grandmother was cruel to him & I’ll be damned if I’d allow it. Well his sisters ended blaming me & hating me for us no longer going because he refused to let them in on all the sick shit. They don’t know any of it. But he still had moments where he wanted to see his grandmother. I told him he was welcome to but if he did, I’d be walking because I couldn’t be with someone who still wanted someone in his life who did respect me & had treated me & my son badly. I felt like he didn’t have my back & I couldn’t be with someone who didn’t. So he’s stayed away OR SO I thought!! Well just a bit ago his sisters IG profile happen to pop up in my search icon AND so I clicked on it. Wellllll long & behold I see a picture of his sister from January with his son in the background!!!!! And I clearly remember that day! He was claiming to go to his friends house to drink & conveniently only took his son. It felt off & I didn’t question it all & left it alone. And then i see that just now!! He’s denied it through & through that it’s an old picture. But I know it’s not!!! I have such a good memory & I know what my little one was wearing that day! He’s saying it’s from when we first moved out together BUT even like that he still lied then after we had talked BUT I know it’s not true cuz the baby’s hair was still short right after we moved out since we had buzzed it off a few months earlier due to lice & was barely growing in.

I felt my heart racing when I saw the pic!! And i told him in FUCKEN DONE!! I can’t be with liar & someone who can still want to be around such sick twisted people & expose his son to that!! And not have my back after how horrible they’ve treated me & my son! I feel so stupid! And heartbroken. I’m 6 1/2 months pregnant! I can’t even believe this! I can’t even cry!!!

SHIT THIS ENDED UP LONG! Sorry... I’m just trying to process & I’m drowning. I’m embarrassed to tell anyone in my family or my friends & I need to let it out.

**UPDATE**

I appreciate everyone’s comments & I would like to clarify a few things...

1- when I said he went to drink it wasn’t literally to go get drunk. He’s very responsible about drinking & driving but he was gonna go hang out & have a drink or 2 & just chill with enough time to go home. It’s a term we have a habit of using. I was typing fast & running on emotions.

2- I NEVER forbade him from seeing his grandmother. I simply told him, he was totally entitled to have & want her in his life. I get it, I was raised by mine as well! BUT when you get married your loyalty & responsibility is to you wife & the family youre building together. They come first now, above everything else. So I simply told him if he did want her in his life that was ok but I would need to move on because this relationship clearly wasn’t a place for me because I’m entitled to have a partner who has my back & protects me from people who treat me AND my son like shit for no reason. If we didn’t get along because we didn’t see eye to eye so he kept us apart that would be different but that’s not the case here.

3- I’m also a child victim of abuse & so I do get it. He was raped multiple times by a BF of his moms & she was aware of it & told him that those thing need to happen in life! He even ended up in the ER once due to it & she still protected the POS! Then when he was a bit old she started molesting him & told him it was normal!! SO if anyone here or anywhere wants to tell me that I couldn’t give ultimatums (which I didn’t) to either get the help he so needed to heal from this trauma & no longer expose himself, his son or any of us to these sick ass people or I needed to move on because I AM a mother before anything & myself & son deserve a healthy environment is WRONG! It’s taken a lot to heal myself from my own shit & I wasn’t about to allow someone else to drag me down that hole because he’s to blind to see it. I’ve been sympathetic & understanding with him because i get it. This shits hard & heavy & trauma is deep & real BUT his lies are not ok. I deserve respect & honesty. If he wanted them he’s totally entitled but let me know that so I can also make an informed choice for my life. I was not threatening him but simply letting him know what my choice would be if he made his so he wouldn’t be blind sided when I walked way.