I’ve been struggling with this for over a year now, my boyfriend has a low sex drive. He’s 22 and I’m 21 and I admittedly have a rather high sex drive and the difference is driving me insane.

His ideal would be to have sex on the weekends, but I like spontaneous fun sex maybe a few times a week and it’s killing my self esteem.

I don’t want him to feel obliged to have sex with me either, that’d be even worse. I just don’t know if I can go on like this. He’s not good at talking about serious topics and kinda just says “I dunno” and “do whatever you want”.

He’s not exactly expressive either and struggles with showing he likes the way I look. By that I mean he has never once told me I look pretty without me asking and he doesn’t call me sexy or say nice things he’s just meh. And he doesn’t say bad things either but his indifference makes me anxious and I get upset about it a lot.

I’ve spoken to him multiple times about how it makes me feel and how I would feel if he could compliment me every now and then but nothing has changed and I’m going in circles.

Do I break up with him or am I being shallow? I really do love him but it’s seriously damaging my mental health. Please help!