Situation with my fiancé. Help please!

Feel free to skip the backstories. I know its long sorry. We really tried to make it as short as possible.

My side:

Backstory:

I lost my job in December. Found out I was pregnant in January. Had extreme food aversions, nausea and vomiting. I survived the first 5 months of my pregnancy on Ensure and water. (OB said once I took my prenatal everyday the baby should be fine.) I suffered from motion sickness before my pregnancy and being pregnant has amplified that. I’m going on 6 months pregnant and can’t be in a car/train/bus more than 10 mins before waves of nausea come on. Also tried taking nausea meds but those make me feel a different kind of sick.

Spoke everything over with my fiancé and we both agreed that it was pointless for me to work.

I’ve been stressed my entire pregnancy because he’s been staying home a lot (2 weeks straight twice in the last 2 months) and we have zero savings now because he used it to buy food and pay bills. He has FMLA which is the only reason he hasn’t been fired. I keep telling him we have a baby on the way and we need to get it together and he keeps telling me not to worry about it.

His aunt has said she’ll buy everything on our registry for us (she’s rich) and he trust her to do that but I don’t because I know she doesn’t like me and I would never trust anyone with that responsibility knowing they can change their minds at any time. His family is also Russian and has some superstition about buying baby stuff early on so she’s said she won’t buy anything before the 9th month. Apparently Russians have never heard of premature/early births (*sarcasm*). Also his mom has baby stuff in storage she buys to donate and has also offered us stuff including a crib and carseat she used for his sister (who turns 14 this year so yeah its way past being expired) but she also won’t give us stuff early due to their superstitions. I’m trying to be respectful of their superstitions but at the end of the day I am a firm believer in it pays to be prepared. I want everything done and organized by my 7th month. I don’t want to have to worry about anything but labour and delivery after that.

Situation:

Yesterday I went with my best friends aunt who is like a mother to me to Ikea. I bought a metal frame day bed and a mattress. We sleep in the living room because thats where the air conditioner is. He gets hot quickly and hates sleeping in the bedroom. I’m from the Caribbean so I don’t mind the heat.

We had been sleeping on a mattress on the floor which had understandably become more and more uncomfortable for me. I told him over and over lets move the a/c to the bedroom so we can sleep in there but he never wants to because his precious computer is in the living room and he spends most of his time there.

Our old pull out couch got absolutely destroyed. My aunt got it from a second hand shop so its seen lots of years of wear. The canvas in it sank because a lot of the hooks holding it up broke off so we folded it back into a couch but it didn’t even work as a couch anymore. Plus our cats tore up the fabric of every chair in the living room and we live in my aunts apartment and she’s already told me I have to replace everything when we move out.

So I found a great deal at Ikea and jumped at the chance to buy it. I messed up buying the mattress because I didn’t realize the chair pulls out bigger. I only bought one twin size when the bed needs two. I asked the associate in the store why it had two mattresses and he said its because its thin and it needed two to make it the height of a regular couch. I thought I could just buy one thick one and we’d be fine. I sent him a picture of it to which he replied “nice” but I didn’t tell him I was buying it because I knew if I asked my he’d say no and we’d go right on sleeping on the floor. Or he’d want to buy an actual bed to put there or something similar to what we had that the cats would just destroy again.

He got the notification on his phone that I used my credit card and he immediately called me but I refused to answer because I don’t want to argue with him in from of my friends aunt. He the texts me saying “what the fuck did you buy?” I text him back and let him know what I bought and why I bought it. He calmed down way too quickly and I should have been more suspicious but I just thought he realized it was a good buy.

I guess he was more upset than I thought because he goes and buys a PS4 Pro even though he already has a PS4! He just told me tonight. He said he thought long and hard about it and did the math and we can afford it, plus he can sell his PS4 for $200. Mind you he also has a PS2 and PS3 he never uses because “nobody plays on that anymore” but he won’t sell them because he “won’t get a high price until years from now.”

He doesn’t get why I am upset and doesn’t think I have any right to be because I bought something without telling him and he thinks he just did the same. I’ve tried telling him my purchase is different from his because it benefits us while his was a selfish buy. He doesn’t get that. He keeps repeating that I don’t understand how the PS4 Pro is different from the PS4 and that I would have never let him buy it after the baby got here (he’s right I think its a complete waste of money that could have gone towards the kid but hey I’m just thinking like a parent here and not like a kid myself). He’s admitted to me that he knows how uncomfortable I was on the mattress on the floor because he noticed I keep going to lay down in the bedroom and he would have eventually done something about it. But he still thinks he was justified in buying a PS4 Pro and won’t be returning it. So please give us your honest opinions on this situation.

His side:

I skip work sometimes because I am fmla protected from my job because I have multiple medical conditions. Which was approved by my special doctor you can't just go in and get it instantly.

I know my fiancé gets nausea and sick while going outside and I am fine with her having no job because I can't see her suffer while having a job.

But she sleeps 12 hours a day every day almost and does almost no chores around the house. Chores such as vacuuming, dishes, trash, cat liter, laundry. I do all the above besides laundry and she does none of it. None. We have a laundry area in our building and a cart so it's real simple for her to do laundry. I wake up at 6am for work and come home around 6pm. I will almost always fall asleep within 2 hours of being home because I have no energy to stay up. Also when she finishes Laundry she takes weeks to go through folding the dry clothes. Shes procrastinating doing it. So I have to rummage through the bags to find clothing. I know I can fold it myself but I have no energy. My job is extremely difficult, stressful and tiring.

Now onto the part about the ps4 story. I do have a ps2 3 and 4. But all those my parents got me. The switch I bought for her to play Mario and Zelda which she loves and she has way more game time than me on the switch. I got that for her as a surprise when they were out of stock and I paid $100 over market price since they were sold out everywhere. When we buy things I research the product and reviews for it so we know what we are getting. Her buying the bed was a shitty move because she goes to Ikea for an hour and sees something on the sales floor and buys it. She also messed up the mattress buy since they would only give us a new mattress or us store credit but we don't even need anything else from ikea.

My aunt and mom will give us baby stuff I am certain that everything is covered because women care so much about newborns especially family children.

I have 2 credit cards. I barely use them. My wife has 1. My limit was recently raised for both cards. I admit I did make an angry purchase to spite of her for buying the bed because she made a decision without me.

Now listen. I thought long and hard and did the math before buying it and wanted it. I have always wanted it. There is a major difference between a ps4 and ps4 pro. It's not just an added pro next to the name. I won't explain it here but you can Google the differences. I paid $450 for it with all taxes and shipping. That's not alot from my available credit since I never spend it. I can sell my old ps4 for $150-200. Also my grandmother gave me $300 cash for my previous bday. Do the math, I basically got it for free after I sell my old ps4. Now is the best time to buy it because I wouldn't be able to later on this year since we are having a baby and going to get alot of expenses and I really wanted this console. I have been playing video games all my life. Let's hear your opinions.